sister-in law's husband..help?

Question

i have a 8 year old son who stays with his cousin on weekends.that is fine but my husbands sister works sometimes and leaves my son with her hubby.i dont get along with his family and he knows this but he left my son with his mother without my permission..what do i do??i dont want to keep the kids apart.and their son is afraid to stay all night away from home so he dont stay with us...help!!!!!!!1

Answer 1

I would suggest only letting your son spend the night when you know your sister-in-law will be home the entire time.

And hopefully, your nephew will lose his fear in the near future and can stay at your house as well.

Also, I would tell your sister-in-law and her husband clearly that in the future, if they need to drop the kids off somewhere, to drop them off with you, as you do not want your son with your brother-in-laws family. Be up front. If they can't respect your rules about your child, you simply can't let him stay over there. It's as easy as that. While it's great for cousins to be close, is more important that your child is with people you trust 100% of the time.

Answer 2

You have to do what is best for your son. Have a talk with your sister and let her know that is not acceptable or make sure your son is only spending the night when you know your sister will be home.

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

first.... i see that you are very protective of your son. that's good. there's a lot of crazy crap happing to kids these days.

but you have to re-evaluate your current situation and status in your home and family life. I really don't think your husband needs "persmission" to leave his son (and yours) with his mother. uunnnleessss he's a step child to him. if that's the case then it's a different story that needs working on. but you didn't say anyting about step child so my advise is as follows:

shouldn't need permission. trust him that he wouldn't leave ya'lls child with a murderer family member.

trust darwin. allowing your child to see and be under the rules and regulations of another different family structure will make your child appreciate YOU more if things aren't so cool there. and if they are cool they will feel strength and comfort knowing there's another well family structure in the family. your child will adapt. children are very very resourcful.

be understanding. understand that YOUR feeligns towards them and they you dont' have anything to do with THIER relationship with your child. don't you want more LOVE for your child? even if u hate them, if they truly LOVE your child that's a plus.

i say all this and i have a wife who's family i can't stand. they are degenerates and ignorant butt holes and it erks my nerve when they visit and it erks my nerves when they watch my kids for a few hours. but i know it's good for them. they are so ignorant that they treat my kids better than their own. go figure.

don't be selfish. it's not about YOU all the time. it's about your kid.

hope i've been helpful.

take care

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Answer 4

If you feel harm may be done,then you have no choice but to hire someone for the weekend. Your son has to remain safe. But if you just don't like them for harmless reasons, deal with it.
Your husbands sister must be told to let you know any time that custody changes, for any reason.

Answer 5

I think this was your responsibility to see that your son is in good hands. Don't leave him with her hubby anymore. They are also responsible for their own kid, not you. So, don't use your son just to stay with his cousin when you know he is not in good hands. That is your mistake you made.

Answer 6

Set the rules pertaining to your son and tell these people if they break your rules, there will be hell to pay. Tell them if this ever happens again, you will go to their house and get your son and don't put it past you to walk right in without knocking.

Answer 7

Don't let your son stay there. Otherwise you have to live with what happens when you are not there, it is as easy as that.