ive been dating this guy for over a year and 1/2 and we've liked each other since as long as we both can remember. lately we've started to become more physical but im not sure where to draw the line. hes told me if i want him to stop all i have to do is say so and he wont ask any questions. we've gone somewhat far but nothing too bad. is it bad to give up ur virginity in high school especially? i love him so much but how bad of a sin is it to commit (im catholic)? how far is too far? and for any guys out there does it mean more to you if the girl you marry some day is a virgin or not? how many ppl out there have had sex? and is it painful your first time?
2007-02-25 14:23:44 · 8 answers · asked by lostinlove17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The main answer is: Don't have sex until YOU are ready. It sounds like your guy has the right idea (i.e. stopping when you say so). Nobody can answer this question for you.
Guy might think they want a virgin at marriage, but any guy worth a damn wants a woman with experience.
Is it a sin? If you are a strict catholic...probably. But some of the wildest times I've ever had were with catholic girls, and they seem to have survived the confessional.
Is it painful? It could be. It's different for everyone. The pain only lasts for a little while.
2007-02-25 14:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kevman9999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, a girl's virginity is sacred and something that she should treasure until she's married. Yes, it sounds kind of corny and cheesy. But most guys would respect a girl more if they find out that she's still a virgin and preserving for her future husband. My wife saved for me during our wedding night. Both of us were our first love for each other. If your boyfriend is truly love you and if both of you are meant for each other, then he should stick around and wait until he ask you to marry him. If you give your virginity that easy, then he will think differently about you and your character. If you want to be special and different than those typical teenage pregnant girls out there on Maury's show and want to bring pride to your family then save it until you're married.
I'm not a religious person, so whether a sin or not is just a personal reference.
Remember, this is your life and future. It has nothing to do with a bible or any religion. Every decision you make in your life will affect you in a good way or bad. So think thoroughly and carefully and don't make any mistake like those on the Maury's show, trying to figure out who's the father of their babies, not to mentioned S.T.D.
About painful, yes, there will be some pains. It depends whether you are a small girl and he's a big guy or not. I'm 6'6" and my wife is 5'6"....Well, it was pretty painful for her.
Well, I hope you'll make the right choice.
2007-02-25 22:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let religion decide it for you. As religion is good for guide lines you should still make your own decisions. As far as having intercourse in your highschool years you need to realize if it is the right thing to do and whether or not your going to regret it later on in life. If you do wait to have sex until marriage I commend you not enough people are waiting until marriage but then again you need to look at why you would wait because more often than not you will not find a guy who is a virgin that you will marry. Me personally would love it if my wife is a virgin or atleast loses her virginity to me mainly because I am thinking of waiting until marriage for sex just so my wife and I can enjoy it without worrying about anything. Listen to your conscience and it will work out in the end.
2007-02-25 22:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by navyseal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can tell you how far to go. But if you're not sure you want it, then you're probably not ready... My first time hurt a little bit, but every time since then has been pretty good. I always take the philosophy of try before you buy, but if thats not what you believe, don't do it.
Just be comfortable that you can live with your own decisions, and remember that God will always love you.
2007-02-25 22:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's bad to give up your virginity in highschool. As long as you think it's worth it, and same goes for your boyfriend. I'm catholic too, nowhere in the bible does it say sex is a sin. Yes it's a little painfull the first time, nothing too bad though, you will be fine! :]
2007-02-25 22:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first few times it is very painful.. i lost my virginity when i was 12 and i wish to god that i had waited! sex is a tricky thing some guys will wait 4 ever if u want them to, but then u have the ******* that tell u they will but as soon as you say no they run to the next 1 that will.. i say dont do it if he wont wait then he is the wrong guy any way dear..
2007-02-25 22:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by brandy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenage sex is disappointing. Almost always. And it's fraught with both physical and emotional dangers. If you stay a virgin into your sophomore year of college, you won't have missed much.
Saving it for marriage is bunk, however. You shouldn't marry anybody with whom you don't have proven sexual compatibility. The sex will stale soon enough anyway.
2007-02-26 01:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it unless your ready, and you'll know when you are.
2007-02-25 22:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by RodneyRowland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋