I'm 18 years old. My best friend for the past 5 years has always had parties house parties, birthday parties, everything and never ONCE bothered to invite me! She always tells me to my face she is having them but never once has even bothered to invite me. This year i finally confronted her about it for the 2nd year IN A ROW and here is what she told me.
"hey Kristin i told u i was having a party.... and let me explain for like the 2nd year in a row... i didn't know if it would mix well... u don't know ANY of my xc friends and that would just be akward and for my other friends you didn't know most of them so i thought it would be weird i was just going to have a small get together with you and kelly or something but then i wasn't sure 'cuase its like 3 parties in a row"
so kelly ended up going to this party!!!
i don't understand what she meant by this and everytime i ask her she just says "it's complicated"
should i still consider her a friend even? I'm almost crying it hurts
2007-02-25 14:17:15 · 14 answers · asked by pantherkick07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry your friend hurt you, but she only wants you when it is convenient for her. You deserve better! Ditch her and find someone who is a friend through thick and thin.
Best of Luck!
2007-02-25 14:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kbear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friend? A best friend will invite you to everything. If there are people that you don't know, your best friend would greet you excitedly and introduce you to anyone you didn't know. She would introduce you as her best friend. If your best friend made a simple mistake once, she would apologize for it over and over again till things were right between the two of you. A best friend wouldn't keep repeating that same mistake. A best friend wouldn't purposely not invite you and tell you to your face why she didn't invite you. A best friend is someone you can depend on no matter what, the one person you trust, the one person you always want to be around because they make any situation better.
I guess what I'm trying to say is this girl is not your best friend. I'm sorry it hurts but you need to find another friend. She sounds like an acquaintance, not a friend.
2007-02-25 22:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mary D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, This girl is no friend. Why wouldn't she want you to meet her other friends? She sounds very self centered and only cares about what others think.
As far as I can tell, she doen't deserve you for a friend. If this is really bothering you, talk to Kelly. She may be able to give you more insight.
But as for selfish girl, dump her like a bag of garbage. If you are in high school, get involved in school activities, church activities, the YMCA ( they have teen groups)and make some TRUE friends. If you are in college, see this as a fresh start and join some groups and other kids if you live on campus.
You do not need her. You deserve better!
Good luck!
2007-02-25 22:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by chickemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have never been to your best friends parties ? How in the world and WHY in the world are the 2 of you friends ??? Friends do NOT, I repeat, do NOT treat each other that way... At 18 I think YOU need to cut her loose and go for another and different type of friend...... She was NEVER a ttrue friend, she is giving you the run around and is very disrespectful at that....... I would not bother to ask her about the whys anymore, just take a deep breath and move on with YOUR life....... God bless
2007-02-25 22:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you consider her to be your friend she obviously doesn't really care that it hurts you that she isn't inviting you to her parties. I say put the shoe on the other foot and throw your own party and don't invite her let her see how it feels to be excluded. Maybe that will put a bee in her bonnet and she will change her ways if not then find someone else to be your friend.
2007-02-25 22:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to explain this, but all of us have diferent friends. What she said is that if you go to the party you might feel unconfortable being there because you do not know anyone in there. So, do not feel bad is she does not invite you. If she is your friend and you do things toguether beside the parties then there is no reason to get upset. Just know, that everyone of us have diferent friends and even my best friend might not know my friends at work, or at school.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 22:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Solaris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am truely sorry that you have a friend that hurts you like that cause if she was a true friend she wouldnt want you to miss a party and she wouldnt want to hurt you either by not inviteing you thats just not right to do to a true friend and yes indeed you should confront her and tell her it doesnt matter if you know her friends are not cause all she has to do is introduse you to her friends and then they will become your friends too and it is olny right to invite you cause after all you are a darn good friend to her so why cant she just invite you after all you are her friend right and i know what you are going through after all i am a male guy and i had a female best friend and we was best friends for over 12 yrs and she did things with out inviteing me but when i confrointed her she just said so what get over it ok already....so i just let it go and we was best friends till her death in 94 so i hope this helps and please dont hate her for not inviteing you just let it go and move on thats the best thing to do i hope that this help s ....................and belive me ok there are more good friends out there he or she it doesnt matter they can be replaced with another friend in time thanks .............hope this helps...
2007-02-25 22:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Popeye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dotn even think of talking to her again girl she is using you and that is bad news when she says something about the party ask her how kelly got along with her friends- if she really did mix your next party dont invite her and she will see what it feels like to be left out
2007-02-25 22:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by monkeyluver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately it doesn't sound like she is being a true friend. Probably not what you wanted to hear but a real best friend would invite you over to EVERY party whether you will get along with everyone or not.
Look for other clues too for her insincerity...like do you help her with homework etc or do other things for her and don't get things in return.
2007-02-25 22:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by jenny s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is your best friend, she would have you at her parties and social gatherings. I'm really sorry that this person has been so dishonest with you.
You need to look in your life and see which friends accept you in all situations. Those are the people that are your true friends. In reality, we only have a few true friends in our lifetime. Be sure to cherish them when they are in your life.
Peace & take care,
debm
2007-02-25 22:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by dam_9191 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋