ok...so i have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. my ex and i were together for 6 years prior. shortly after we broke up, we completely went our separate ways and its been a year since we last spoke. now he is going to be in town and he wants to meet up for dinner. would it be wrong to go? i want to go because there is this unexplainable curiousity in my head, i dont know what it is. but i know it is not going to jeopardize my newly found love. i think the reason why it would be important for me to go to this dinner is because our break up was messy and there was no formal break up. honestly, i would not go if it will lead to jeopardizing my relationship now. but i think it will be good for the ex and i so we can completely open ourselves to others and not repeat our mistakes with our new relationships. would it be wrong to go????
2007-02-25 14:16:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask your current boyfriend. If he is okay with it, then you can go. If he isn't, then it WILL jeopardize your relationship. Good Luck!
2007-02-25 14:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, you sound very secure in your new relationship and that's great so with that said I think you should tell your new guy, cause that's the right thing to do, and go have fun anyone in your position would want to go' so go and have some closure. I also think you sound like your very much in love and your new guy should realize how lucky he is, it would have been easy to do it behind his back but you are honest and up front, good for you' have enjoy your self... and don't forget to brag about that new man you have to your ex... good luck' and one more thing I would make sure you look super hot and be super happy' hey it never hurts to let them know what they lost right(wink)
2007-02-25 14:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it' s wrong to go as long as you tell you current boyfriend the complete truth, then tell your X that you will meet him at a certain time, for a certain time and don't make it an all night thing. Respect taht your current man might be a little irritated if you don't come home at a set hour.
2007-02-25 14:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately keep it as casual as possible. maybe inform a gf incase things get weird and you suddenly get an "emergency" call. He'll get that you're uncomfortable and appreciate you saying it the nice way.
after all its just for a refresher. either that, or suggest coffee rather than dinner. WAY more casual and definately not as hard to get out of... from there, you can judge whether a dinner date is appropo.
2007-02-25 14:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Aubrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if your present man knows. If not NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO. Curiosity killed the cat. Plus he might try to kiss you or something and most ex's already have done that so they think its know big deal and I'm sure he will try to slap your rear-end or something its just irresistible
2007-02-25 14:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that your testing your faith in your relationship with your new man. I can also tell you that if you have no children with your ex and it was as messy as it was to break up you have no reason other than to test yourself. Some times the trap is so unseen but in this case you should not need it in bold letters to see what your doing. Ask yourself this what could *** of your meeting the old man? Ask also do you really love your new man. What else do you need to know.
2007-02-25 14:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by status quo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unless your taking your new found love with you. whats the deal, youre sitting there trying to justify why you should go. i see a lot of excuses. you broke up. havent spoken. now he wants dinner. your curiosity just might be, does he still have feelings for me...we all have done this once or twice in our lives. if i ever see him again ill show him what he missed out on...if your serious about your new love, either include him so he has no ill feelings about your going, or just dont go.
2007-02-25 14:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. As long as it wouldn't be jeopardizing your current relationship. Go to dinner and get some answers!
2007-02-25 14:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say no cuz your current BF may get mad.
2007-02-25 14:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mike H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on.....believe me....from a guy's perspective...he wants to get in your pants
2007-02-25 14:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋