My boyfriend, (ironic how many questions/statements start out that way) he asked me to marry him, we have lived together for 2 years. We have been through so much, getting ready to buy a house. We argue sometimes. His friends are over 3-4 times a week until 4/6 am continuously, I work a lot and he is a full time student. I tried to ask him to hang out with his friends only when I am work. Here lately all he does is play video games all night and hang out with his friends. He is 22 if I have not mentioned that. He complains about everything nothing helps. I have an extremly stressful job and don't know if I can handle this anymore. I just work come home and go to bed. Any serious advice please help --- PS He wrecked my car on Valentine's day while picking me up for lunch and I am paying for it because insurance won't cover it has cost me $1200 so far --- Frustrated with the getting house, wreck and working 72 hrs a week.
2007-02-25 14:10:36 · 21 answers · asked by Brookey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like u two are at two different points in ur life u've grown up and he hasnt doesnt sound like its going to work sounds like u've had enough and are ready to get out and who could blame u
2007-02-25 14:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Robert C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both got lost in the simple life.
You're bf is asking you to marry him but not making the effort anymore. If he thought that you were a challenge at all, he'd change his ways slightly and become more appealing.
You know that. That's why you haven't said yes. But everyone is always afraid to end a relationship and be single again.
If you said "no", then you'd go through a stage of having more time and reflecting. You could probably get your stressful life under control and maybe the next guy will be better suited for your lifestyle.
Besides, 22 is a fairly young age to get married. A lot of people figure themselves out in their twenties. You might be a very different person by the time 26 rolls around and you're more ready to settle down.
2007-02-25 22:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by gabrielbowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he's 22 and not 12? Because he acts like a 12 year old. So what if he's a full time student, can't he get a part time job to help you? Or at least pay for the damage to your car. You sound like you have grown up, time to find a boyfriend who's grown up too. You need a boyfriend who will be respectful to your wishes, and from what you've written here they don't sound unreasonable.
2007-02-25 22:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend doesn't sound mature enough to live with you in the same house, drive your car or share living expenses - let alone marry you. You sound like the only mature one in that relationship. Age has nothing to do with things. A man can be mature at 22 and immature at 50. Yours sounds like he has some more growing up to do before you two should be setting up house together, whether or not you marry.
2007-02-25 22:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like drama to me... do u really wanna deal with a guy that unresponsible for the rest of ur life? my sister married a guy like that they were together for almost 10 years... now they are getting divorced! a real man should be there to comfort u and make things rite and help u with things... does he even clean the house while u are at work all day? does he clean up after himself atleast or his friends that come over?
if the answer is no.. i don't think this marriage is something that u wanna get stuck with... u haven't said anything positive about the relationship.
2007-02-25 22:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him. He is looking for someone to take the place of his mother and take care of him, let him have no responsibilities, no job, play with his friends, clean up after him, and have sex on the side. As a matter of fact, you can do better. If you decide to buy a house, do not put his name on the house at all or you will never get rid of him.
2007-02-25 22:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say bye-bye to the boyfriend. You have been playing house long enough. Trust me when I say that people don't necessarily settle down and become responsible when they get married - and it sounds like your boy (can't call him a man, sorry) isn't interested in growing up just yet. You sound like you are. So pack your things and walk into the bright array of opportunities that await you. I wish you good luck - I won't lie to you, this won't be easy. Trust me when I say that if you don't get out now, life is bound to be miserable.
2007-02-25 22:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by amiranae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if nether of you are ready for the total commitment thing...... He is still growing up and you are grown up and ready to stay that way.... I have 3 sons, and 2 of the 3 sound just like your guy.... Take my suggestion and back off the house buying thing and give him time to grow up, it will NOT change after you buy the house and YOU will end up carrying a heavy load........ but , it is YOUR choice..... God bless
2007-02-25 22:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he's truly serious then you should wait for one year. If you haven't strangled each other by that point you're probably as set for a strong marriage as anyone could ask for. Whatever you do, just be sure you're positive that's what you want. If things go sour, it can only go from bad to worse in a marriage situation.
2007-02-25 22:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by James J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn girl, no C@ck is worth all that....you need to pack up and move out on your own...then let him work and pay his own bills and learn what it means to be a 'responsiable' adult..then and only then do you get back with him...you are not his mother...so quit babying him...why the f#&*^ are you paying for his mistake? he crashed the car not you.....get a real man who will take care of HIS share of the bills, work and wreckage...hun get out now while you can
2007-02-25 22:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋