i need help.........?

Question

i need help making friends in class and not crying


In my school there is always one person shauned by the others and i'm that one. i have good grade, i bathe, i dress nice, i'm good at sports. but everytime i tr y taliking to someone another person would push me away. i feel so lonely in my school. and it can affect somone's social life badly. i feel like i have no friend IN MY SCHOOL. and i go ther everyday so it's hard to avoid. i really want a friend who would talk to me, stand up for me and laugh with me. instead writng poems of life.

Answer 1

go talk to your school counselor they are there to help you. thats their whole job. try to join a school club or try for a sport. you can talk to a teacher too, there is always someone to help you

Answer 2

oh Maria I am sorry you are having to go through this, I know that it is painful, I was also in your shoes once! It can be hard to fit in especially since it feels like everyone else already has their click that they belong to. The best way to meet friends when you go to a new school is in class and getting involved in sports, clubs, or other school activities. Pick something that you can really shine at! There are also other ways to meet friends, such as at church or community programs or sports. Tell your parents that your having a hard time, maybe they can help you get out an about more, maybe their friends at work have a kid your age! Depending on how old you are maybe you could get a part time job on the weekends or after school. The other thing to consider is what kind of image are you projecting, you say that your sad and feel rejected, do you think that others can tell? No matter what try to greet each day with a smile and be friendly to everyone, pretty soon someone with take interest in you and want to get to know you! Hang in there!

Good Luck!!

Answer 3

aww sweetheart, plz don't cry first and foremost. Everybody goes through this at one point...and those who say they don't are lying.
I know exactly how you feel because i was a complete recluse when I was in school too...but you know what? I found myself eventually when I went to college.
If you feel depressed, angry or upset, PLEASE talk to a counselor. They are there specifically to help you and guide you along the way. No matter what you do, do not forget that nobody can make yourself inferior unless you give them the chance to do so.
Keep on trying--i talk to loads of people everyday...and just keep the hope alive that you might end up making a great friend just by starting a random conversation (i know i have in the past). The best way to start a conversation (i've found) is to compliment them on something--like their shoes, their hair...etc. Once you compliment a person, they kind of let their guard down and are more likely to open you into their conversation.
But remember, as desperate as you are to try and make friends...don't let anybody take your dignity and self-respect from you. Bottom line: don't let yourself get used. People who use you are not your friends...they are just jerks who step on others to make their pathetic lives better.

I hope this helps. I know that one day you'll find yourself :)

Answer 4

Sometimes we feel like we are alone but the other kids in school are not actually hurting us. I only say this because you did not mention any examples of bullying.

I am a shy person too... I'm very nice, I like to help people, I'm pretty (I've actually won a pagent), I dress okay, I'm smart, I'm informed about all the hollywood gossip so I'm not nerdy... but I always feel like an outsider and whenever I talk I feel like people don't listen or I cannot get a word in during conversations so I end up listening to everyone else and saying very little.

But I know for a fact that people like me, no one makes fun of me, no one is mean to me... I'm just shy. And that's okay...

I realized that people talking around me is just the same as people talking to me directly. Don't be afraid to enter conversations even if you were not directly spoken to.

I found out that not everyone can be my close friend. I have met people where as soon as i spoke to them, we were best buds immediately.

Answer 5

I'm not sure what your school offers, but my son's school has a program through the guidance office that has group meetings for kids who either are new to the school or for whatever reason don't have any real friends in school. They set up these groups and allow the kids to get to know each other in a smaller setting, without outside peer pressure. See if your school offers something like that... if not, talk to the guidance counselor about starting a group. You'll be amazed at how many other kids feel as friendless as you do. Or, you could join groups outside of school and hopefully meet a few kids who go to your school that you normally wouldn't interact with. Some sort of church youth group, or a teen group at a local YMCA or something like that.
You mentioned needing help not crying - do you mean that you cry in school? Emotion is normal, and expressing it is healthy, but if you're crying in school, it probably scares people off - they're not sure how to react or how to handle it. I'm working with my son on controlling his emotions - when he gets angry, his eyes tear up (he's not crying, though... it's weird). He's worried that the kids in school will think he's crying. Working on getting him to express his emotions in private, rather than in public.
Best of luck to you - and you sound like whoever winds up making friends with you will be lucky to have you!!!

Answer 6

I'm like that too I talk to my teachers and counselors and do lots of extra curricular activities I met people through debate team and community service projects... cheer up

Answer 7

join a debate team or a club at school
you will get to know these people and freindships will happen

Answer 8

u probably need to loosen up a little do something big where people will notice u!!!!!!!!