It's this guy I dated10 years ago. I really loved him a lot. and I still do. We are good friends now and we have the chance to be more than friends again.
He is loving, caring, romantic and a great friend. He turns me on but the problem is I am not satisfied in bed with him. He's too quick like 3 minutes top and that's very disappointing.
I know a relationship is more than just sex but every now in then I would like to have good sex. The passion between us is great but I want more. Am I being selfish. Is there any one who knows what I can do.
2007-02-25 14:03:47 · 14 answers · asked by just curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok you love this guy and he's always had your heart. Get him some help with sex ..i mena after he gets off say hes not finished and to get down there..or hand him a dildo and say baby can u finish me ..I still horny or something to boost his confindence. Try it it may work.
2007-02-25 14:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish. Relationship without satisfying sex is doomed because it is extremely frustrating. However, if it so good in every other respect you shouldn't give up easily. I would talk to him openly, honestly in a non-judgemental and loving manner. Tell him that you are not quite happy with your sex life. It looks like you two need sex therapy. There are books (your local library) there are sex therapists. He looks like a great guy, hopefully he will be understanding and ready to work with you for more satisfying sex. He may not even know that you are unhappy. Good luck!
2007-02-25 22:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off if you love this person then sex should not top the list. Now that that is said, consider all the methods for satisfaction and discuss them in detail. After all if your sexual needs are going to prevent you with being with someone you say you love... Buy a good book, like "The Joy Of Sex" and books by Dr. Ruth. I am sure something can be found that would beneficial to both of you. Have fun and good luck.
2007-02-25 22:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Nana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a big part of a relationship but it's not everything. You're lucky to find someone that's all of the things you said he is. All you have to do is spice it up a little. tell him you need some foreplay or something. Explain to him what you're feeling. But remeber, u only get 1 chance at real love. There may never be another man that with all of those characteristics. They may have one or the other. So keep this one for yourself.
2007-02-25 22:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by twinsgirl26 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi difinetlly u should go back to him but their are some expected things that u should do first try to identfy what his involvment in your life made is it worthwhile that should make some future paitence and sacrife to make the relationship going then how the sexual r/p that u have affected you a way that you are sayind.i hope every body need to have a good intemate time with thire hubby ar partner and try to have the gut to do the talking through thing and don't try to make it hard on him rather in a certain presentable and understandable way tell him and try to make him how understand you and make him to do some thing about it pls do't make him hear u and go with out a solution just deal the issu in a nice way if he rely cares for you your issu wil be his issu too and he ll react to it and even he may be happy that you told him and might shou him how much you give value for both the r'p and him and if you have to read more search on the internate available materials good luck and after all you both have to get a happyness out of the relationship you have to try every thing that should be exhausted with out affercting your self and try to make some good out of it give this a real try good luck
2007-02-25 22:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by mttttttt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem you have can solved. Some men (and some women) have to be taught. Being a good lover is not something that comes naturally. So be patient and teach him what you want. Get some books so he can read or you can show to him. Good place to start is with the studies of Masters and Johnson. Easy to find, maybe on the internet.
2007-02-25 22:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he has all of the other qualities that you are looking for. The sex thing could be worked on. You are attracted to him so the rest just needs improvement. Start by being honest with him and let him know what "does it" for you.
2007-02-25 22:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what it is that will make you satisfied in the bedroom he is not a mindreader. Try taking the situation into your own hands and guiding him to where or what it is that you are lacking that will make sex with him more enjoyable.
2007-02-25 22:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO gd sex??.... Erm get hima Doctor.. if it still Doesn't work Ditch him.. cos.. Love goes hand in hand with sex for me... so .. since u're into gd sex too it's just in time to come for u to realise tht u can't stand it and quit ..
2007-02-25 22:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by gal19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely get back with him. If he loves you he'll be open to some practice and go surfing on web for techniques to slow him down. You might learn something and get lucky while you're at it!
2007-02-25 22:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by jess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋