kk..my GF said she has no choice to break up with me cuz of her parents. If they find out about us, they are going to kill her and kick her out of the house possibly because they want her to be with someone of the same culture. Now, ive said over and over again that we can keep it on the low so they dont find out as yet, until we are older, since we both are seniors at high school. Her brother is another story. He tells her to break up with me everyday cuz im not the same culture, n its getting to her n she says she cant take it anymore. Now apparently her bro has friends who has siblings in our school so he finds out thru them that we are still together. In other words, we cant even keep it low and only act as a couple at school. We love each other soo much, and dont wanna break up. But she doesnt know what to do because she doesnt see another option....plz..any advice on this situation??
2007-02-25 14:03:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can understand that it must be extremely emotionally-taxing on both of you.
The best way to handle this would be to respect her family's wishes, because if you two do keep it on the low, eventually they will find out, through her brother's friends or if one day you two are careless and her parents find out.
However if you two are convinced that you need to be together, perhaps come to an agreement that maybe when you both graduate and have more freedom to date again.
For now though, I suggest just being friends until you two can date without the risk of being found out. Staying together, even keeping it low, would be dangerous for your GF.
2007-02-25 14:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Alanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to wait until she's moved out of her home before seeing her again. Maybe you could email or something, but it sounds like it would be better for both of you to take a break for awhile. I know it's hard, but there really isn't another option right now.
Good Luck!
2007-02-25 14:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kina like what I went through a few years ago; I had a girl who her parents hated me infact her whole family hated me and she ended up running away and living with me for a year until she got taken back to her family and kept from me for two years though I waited for her and things worked out in the end.. But I wouln't advise you to have her move in with you.. I think maybe you should talk t her family and let them know what's up how much you care and love their daughter. See what happens?? I mean if you love her and she loves you then even though how much stress her family is putting on her it shouldn't matter because she has you to fall back on. Just don't give up man, fight for what you believe in, and fight for what you love.. I wish I could help you better then this but I can't, hope you and your girl makes it :-) Goodluk!
2007-02-25 14:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by evolutiondamngood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a modern day Romeo and Juliet. People should leave you alone, I think you are old enough to make up your own mind who you want to be with. Will it be like this the rest of your life? I hope not. Maybe you should all go out to dinner someplace and let your family get to know this person better.Sounds like the parents want to control your lives. Good luck to you both, I hope things work out for you.
2007-02-25 14:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by johN p. aka-Hey you. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if her brother finds out and DOES tell, then that may be the end for her. in some cultures, a family may disown their daughters over something like this. im sure that you wouldnt want to cause your girlfriend this kind of pain. its not fair to you two, but if you love each other, then it can wait until after graduation. either that of you could off her brother...but thats not good either
2007-02-25 14:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by b2k4ever08 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to the parents or at least the brother? if they deny you its not gona work out, myabe in a couple of years it could. You should make a pact with your Gf to meet up sometime in the future.
2007-02-25 14:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to do what she is saying, until she is not living under her parents roof. Unfortunately, the parents do have a say until them :-(.
If it gets found out she could get in huge trouble with parents, and seriously, that is not worth it since she sleeps in the same house as them.
If you love her, you will welcome her with open arms when she is able to be with you :-). Good luck.
2007-02-25 14:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i wouldnt break up with her just because of her parents. if her parents dont like it, then let them be mad. and if she gets kicked out, i guess you could stay with someone you are in close touch of until you save enough money to get a house or whatever. i hope my suggestion helps!
2007-02-25 14:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by colin33193 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in this situtation were my girlfriends parents only wanted her to be with a hindu guy....but we kept going out ... we didn't hide anything .. eventually her parents found out that i really loved her and they excepted me for who i was.....advice just be you show the parents that you can love even if they don't like it....trust they'll brake and allow it
2007-02-25 14:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Deon K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋