i'm really mad at him right now. is it ok for him to give money to his sister who has 2 kids and her bf is living with her right next door to our room. Her loser bf doesn't work and she is asking my boyfriend for money when we don't even have alot right now. should i stop being jealous about it. i'm not talking to him right now. What should i do? Also when i'm this mad i feel like leaving him! Can i get some advice, how to clam down.
2007-02-25 13:56:52 · 12 answers · asked by jackie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as he is making the money, then he has the right to help out his family. He is a very loyal guy and will be good to you as well. Go kiss him and tell him that you appreciate his generous heart and you love him. Don't punish him for things he doesn't deserve to be punished for. Act like this when he's cheated on you, not when he's helping his sister, whom he loves very much.
2007-02-25 14:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u will not calm down if he doesnt stop giving her money.
i think u should ask ur bf to talk to ur sister about it. does the bf of the sister not want to work or has he got other problems? is there any organisation he can turn to to find a job? if he's just plain lazy and insist on not forking out a single cent for the sister and her kids, ur bf should advise the sister to leave him.
i dun think the sister feels good about asking money from ur bf either... everyone has their own problems to settle and with their bond so strong (which think so), the sister must have taken lotsa courage to ask for money while ur bf loves her enough to give her money despite having not much at all.
u shd be glad that u are having a bf who cares for his sister. i always think that if a guy cares about his family, he'll be a good husband and father to his future family (of cos, there r exceptions).
instead of being jealous (which i think u may be more anxious about the well-being of ur bf and u. and this is not really jealous. u just love ur bf too much and want him to think for himself), try to help the sister with ur bf. it will be a relief for ur bf to get u to be so understanding. and seriously, with u being more understanding, i believe ur relationship with ur bf will strengthen.
2007-02-25 22:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl..I find myself there all the time with my bf. The fact is that his sister is his blood and family. Regardless of how mad you get and what you say. He will always help them out even if it is not right. Just try to get over it. It's hard. have been dealing with this same issue for 5 yrs. He has not changed and neither has his family. And for that matter, neither have I. If you love him, just let it go. Good luck
2007-02-25 22:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cf Precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't blame you for being mad, but can you blame your bf for trying 2 help his sister....you should try to talk to him in a calm voice, and tell him how you feel....as for the angry thing....you should try to find a quiet place and just relax your body....
hope it works out...
2007-02-25 22:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Psychedelica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why in the world are you jealous? He is helping out his "blood". If it is his $ you need to talk to him and tell him that it bothers you(he cant read your mind). if it is both your $ and he is just handing it over and not talking to you about it...LEAVE, no man is worth all that aggrivation, trust that
2007-02-25 22:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart....ifanything you should be mad at his sister's boyfriend not him. He is helping out hsown sister.Now i can see if it was another woman who he gave hs money to, but it is family. dont leave him....give his sister and her boyfriend a world of hell for him being abum and her not stompng on him for it
2007-02-25 22:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by tourcheredsouls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you help make the money? the b/f is the sisters problem.she needs to deal with his sorry butt. talk to him about it before you go off. you cant pick your family.those 2 kids are his neices.
2007-02-25 22:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by black jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine to give money to his sister its his sister and she obviously needs help
its fine to be jelouse but dont let it get to ur head
ok?
2007-02-25 22:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by deathroe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be a good brother to help his sister. You need to understand that since she has two kids she might need his help. You should not be angry with him. You need to be thankful that he is a good man.
2007-02-25 22:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah, loyalty to family members is a horrible thing in a man. I guess he should just put all his efforts into you.
2007-02-25 22:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋