I have been married before and have a 6 year old daughter. She means the world to me and my fiance treats her like his own. I want to include her in the wedding in a special way. Any ideas?? Also would it be proper to invite her dad and his new wife???
2007-02-25 13:38:29 · 12 answers · asked by ambersmom318 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When my husband and I were married, our children were our entire wedding party. The little girls (4&6) were the flower girls, and my Son (10) was best man while my husbands daughter(11) was my Maid of honor. During the ceremony, we lit a "family unity candle". My husband and I took our tall lit candles and lit our own childrens shorter candles....... then as a family, the 6 of us lit the unity candle together. What an impact it had. It signified us united as one family unit and there was not a dry eye in the church. We did not do it for anyone else but us, however, we still to this day get complements on that part of the wedding.
As far as the ex goes.... if you would like to invite him go ahead. There is nothing wrong with it. We invited both our ex's and their significant other... they declined as to not "steal our thunder"... as far as people talking the way some people do...
Good Luck to you and your family!!!
2007-02-25 13:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes as long as you have an amicable relationship with the father and your fiance is okay with this it is completely appropriate. These days you dont have to hate your ex it is ok to be nice and be involved in each others lives to an extent when you have children together.
As for including your daughter i saw a wedding where they were a blended family so after the bride and groom exchanged vows they called the daughters forward and he gave them each a locket and pledged to always love them and protect them and to do his best helping the mother to raise them into the best person they could be. They also took a photograph of the Bride Groom and girls separate from everyone else. The girls stood as bridesmaids instead of friends of the mother. With a six year old obviously you could have her be the flower girl or even the ring bearer which might make it more special. Good luck
2007-02-28 08:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are on good terms with her dad and the new wife and its okay with your fiance, then by all means invite them. I think its great when parents who aren't together can get along - its so much better for the child. Congratulations on that. As far as how to make your daughter a part of the wedding, why not make her a flower girl. She is the perfect age for it and I am sure she would love putting on the pretty dress and spreading the flower petals down the aisle and being a part of mom's big day. Good luck in your upcoming wedding and God bless.
2007-02-25 15:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'd ask your fiance how he feels about your ex husband being at your wedding. That's how I'd make that decision. You wouldn't want him to feel uncomfortable at all on your big day.
About adding your daughter to the wedding, maybe she could walk you down the aisle. I'm sure your dad probably walked you the first time. Or let her be your maid of honor if you want. I don't have a daughter, but I do have a son and he's going to walk me down the aisle when I get married. You could also do the hands ceremony. Have you heard of that? You can google it. It is really sweet. Something you do with your daughter and your new husband as part of your ceremony. The minister will read it in front of the crowd and it is so sweet. You should look it up!!!
2007-02-26 02:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make her a member of the bridal party, maybe a flower girl or Junior bridesmaid. Just have her be included more in the actual ceremony and at the reception. As for her father, that all depends on the relationship you have with him. If you think it's won't be awkward for anyone at the wedding, then do it.
2007-02-25 13:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure invite her dad and his new wife if you are on good terms with them.; I've seen where couples that have children from previous marriages/relationships give the child a necklace or bracelet or ring and they say short vows to the child promising to love and cherish them as well, it was lovely.
2007-02-25 13:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like bw's idea. she could also be your flower girl. she could get all dressed up, feel like a real part of it all. hope your wedding day is special for all of you...all the best to you
2007-02-25 13:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by psst.... its me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could be a flower girl :) and what a wonderful day for her if you can invite her dad and his new wife you will make her day as special as yours is for you and God Bless you for thinking of her
2007-02-25 13:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She could be your flower girl. As for her dad and his wife, did they invite you?
2007-02-25 14:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by pixie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my mother remarried, my sister and I actually gave our mother away. We were boths maids of honor, and had a little speach to say when it came time to give our mum away.
2007-02-25 14:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋