Help me i'm going crazy?

Question

I am a mother of 3 yr old triplets and 17 mo. and they do NOT listen to me at all, they listen to their dad more tham me . It takes for me to yell and spank them in order for them to listen for maybe 10 mins than back to raising hell. I tried everything .... someone please help i'm going crazy

I have tried time out ,leaving the room, not pay attention to their actions, I pretend to crying-than they cry louder,books, doctors, advice from others, taking them on special dates buyng things ; food, toys and or clothes. I tried Everything

Answer 1

how about a firm voice? your husband helping you to earn their respect for you?

Answer 2

you need to set out clear consequences for actions and follow through every single time. As exhausting as it can be. I felt like my twins were in timeout for 2 months straight (they weren't) but I was always taking one or the other for timeout. Now I have great kids who do as they are told (most of the time lol). It is the consistency that makes the differences. You can not let them get away with it even once. They need to know if you say they will go to time out for the behaviour that they will go straight away. Not in 10 min not when you have told them 20 times but on the very next time that they do it. You will feel like you spend all your time on this but eventually they will get better and you will notice a huge difference. The 17 month old would be following the behaviour. At this age I think the behaviour will stop as the others stop but once he gets a bit older the same goes for him.
A great idea would be to find a multiple birth group in your area it is always good to sympathise with others that understand raising triplets. Here is a link that may help. Good luck and don't give in or up. Hope this site can give you some help

Answer 3

Something I read some where said that if you are always on edge and yelling and screaming at a (say) level 9 out of ten that what level will you go to when they are about to run out in front of car...I may have jumbled that alittle but I realized I was always too high strung and over reacting to the little things...and i toned it down 6 notches and then when they did something really wrong (not very often I would use that FIRM voice and THEN they listened). Think about how you react and talk everyday to them. Especially with 3 toddlers I'm sure you are strung out and stressed. I prayed for more patience with my children and I swear its better!

Answer 4

You have to remain consistent , tell them one time in a very firm voice to stop ...if not commence spanking again until they realize you are not a push over , they have to realize you mean business there is no negotiating or counting with children , If you threaten to whip ,and do not they will continue to push their limits, mine were the same way for awhile, all of mine are very well mannered now they are 14,12,10,&8 .. when the oldest was 8, I could take them to a nice restaraunt with no problems ,I have not had to even get on to them in years , they are all doing well in school ,and are on their best behavior at home ,and away... their teachers even ask what I do to get them so well behaved , I tell her..(1) I do not negotiate with children , I provide them with the love and needs for a good life ,they have no choice but to mind.. it is their job to mind me ..,my job is to correct them when they don't . if they don't want me to do my job, they had best do theirs .((.there is only #1 no other rules apply to behavior))
Because I am responsible for the adult they grow up to become , not these people who give time out , and counting lessons ...keep the disapline the same all the time if you say stop then tell them again "for the last time " make it the last time ,and follow through with the consiquences every time , if you skip one time you have to start over...kids are smarter than we give them credit for , most children start testing their boundaries at age 1.. and they will keep on until they see if you will give in or not ...good luck

Answer 5

That used to be me!!
My children would rarely listne to me but would listne to their Father. I think we are too soft. Anyway I started looking around for advice just like you and I found a book called - 1, 2, 3 Magic!
It uses the counting method of only counting to 5 and then time out for the age of your child e.g 17mths =1 &1/2 minutes 3yr olds=3 minutes each
And they need to be seperatated for time out then when it's over you don't discuss it unless it was dangerous or something you don't want to become a habit(swearing) If they argue it's so many extra minutes on top of what they would get for their age.
It works for me.

Answer 6

Hopefully they will grow out of it. kids that young dont under stand what your going through. My kids are 8 5 3 and 1. My kids do the same they dont listen. Some times i get so mad now i see my temper in them. its hard to stay calm when you have no respect.
i hope you will get your answers.

Answer 7

Try watching Nanny 911. Lol, really, it works.

Instead of spanking them, ask them why they're acting like that and reward them when they do something good.

Answer 8

this will sound really funny but did it to my son and seem to work

i put myself in a time out for being a bad mom in the bathroom pretend to throw a temper tantrum and when you come out they will say things like your such a good mom but be waned my son felt really bad for a few days but when ever he starts to get to out of hand I'll i say is time for a mommy time out and he gives me a hug and say no your being a good mom

Answer 9

whoa don't spank you kid its just not the why to go. send them to time out. and when there good give them a treat. it shows that good behavior is good trust me i was raised that way and i turned out great.

Answer 10

o that sounds like me but just have 2 one is four and one is three then i have a tiny baby hands full