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Question

ive really been going through alot in my life lately, and my parents really dont seem to understand me. Im a cutter. Ive been doing it for about 2 years. I know it doesnt make sense, but when im stressed, it makes me feel better. They arent deep cuts, just enough to bring a little blood.My mom knows that I cut, but she tries to blow it off like its nothing. Like she didnt even hear me. Today she saw my cuts again and told me that I was stupid for doing it and that I was doing it to make her mad. I dont cut cut for anyone but myself. I dont want her to see, i try to hide my cuts, not flaunt them around.No one really knows about this except my mom.If my friends knew, they wouldnt know what to do. I would end up being a loner.But anyways back to my story. I just want to know why do you think it is that my mother calls me stupid for doing it? Doesnt she know shes making me do it more.The words she says to me cut me deeper than any knide ever could. I just dontknow what to do.

Answer 1

It seems like your mom doesn't understand. My younger brother went through the exact same thing last year. My parents were always putting him down for something, even though he is the smartest person I've ever met in my life. He started to cut himself. He got caught doing it in class one day by his teacher. I think he wanted someone to notice, someone to care.
Your mother doesn't understand why you cut. All she sees is you intentionally hurting yourself. All she sees is the pain on the outside and not the pain on the inside. I know it can be scary to talk to your mom about this, but maybe you should. Talking, as cheesey as it may seems, helps sometimes. If you try to talk to her and you can't seem to make her see why you do it and that you aren't stupid, maybe you should try to see a family therapist. My brother did that, and it seemed to help his relationship with our mother. It just depends on how your family is stuctured. If you do end up going to therapy, you might want to have another person there you know will be on your side to help you talk to your mother. Having support from close friends and family always helps.
As for not telling your friends, I think maybe your good friends would be able to handle it. They may be uncomfortable with it, but then they will start to accept it and even try to help you. My best friend used to be a cutter (before I met her). One of her really great friends helped her through it and now she only thinks of doing it when something really bad happens. Instead, I have her call me when she wants to cut and we go out and do something together like bowling or ice skating to help take her mind off of things.
I hope I have helped you, at least a little bit and good luck with things!

Answer 2

Over the past few years I have talked with many young cutters.... And to be honest very few ppl understand what is going on and why.... I have never been a cutter, just a person God seems to place in their paths..... I do have the compassion for you, my heart breaks at the knowledge that you have that much pain inside, and that the cutting is a way to let it out... Correct me if I am wrong ? Please do not blame your Mom for her misunderstanding of the problems you face, ppl fear what they do not understand..... Parents fear and are afraid of what theri children might or do have to face,we can NOT stop life from happening.... Cutting is your way of dealing with life, it is NOT a healthy way, but still your way..... May I suggest you find a councler or preacher or priest or a friends mother, that YOU trust to take this to ?? I know you do not want to let others know, and I understand, but I have to tell you this, cutting is a severe form of self inacting hurt that exchanges an in pain for an outer one.... and it will NOT change or make the pain go away, no matter how deep you cut... Please find some one to talk to before this gets out of hand..... God does NOT make mistakes, He made YOU for a special reason and that reason will become clear some day, but YOU have to be here to fulfill that mission..... And I realy think or I suggest, You sit down with Mom, at the kitchen table, and look her in the eye and show her your cuts and just speak up, loud and clear, and make her see what you see, or think you see...... Do not be afraid to speak up !!!!!!!!! God bless

Answer 3

Your Mom is completely wrong and only making matters worse. She probaly doesnt realize how much her words are affecting you,though. You should be honest and have a talk with her. Then you should seek professional help to get to the root of your issues. You could be suffering from an undiagnosed mental problem so its not your fault. You should also get involved in a support group with people that cut as well. Good Luck!

Answer 4

What do you want her to say? It is a sickness that does nothing to help the issue. If you know it's not right or healthy why continue? Get help rather than hide. To hide is to be a coward. You are where you are because that is exactly where you want to be. As you know you have the power over yourself to create an enjoyable life. You only live once so do what it takes to make it awesome!

Answer 5

When you are physically sick, you go to a medical doctor. You realize you have some emothional issues that are making you do something wrong .... and that is good that you realize it. You need to go to a psychologist, or whoever will treat you for this cutting thing. You will need the support of your parents and friends and it may take a while to overcome. Get your help as soon as you can ... thru your parents .... thru a school counselor ... whoever will take you to get help. Best wishes ....

Answer 6

you probable won't like this answer, yet i visit tell you besides. sell off the boyfriend. If he's reducing himself and you're reducing your self "to make issues truthful", then he's no longer in all danger the kind of guy you desire to go alongside with. Spend a while getting to comprehend your self, yet you may no longer try this while you're unbelievable out with unfavorable human beings. reducing your self would not resolve the topics, does it? What you should do is discover out what's making you desire to shrink your self to experience the discomfort, after which handle that difficulty.

Answer 7

Hon, when you grow up you'll realise just how much you are disfiguring your body for attention! You might disagree with me now! but further down the track I'll be proved right. Try and get help now, as it is a illness and nothing more. You should see my scars, and they got me no-where! God! what a waste of a knife!

Answer 8

you really really need to seek counselling.

People cut because they are ill equiped to deal with emotionally stressful situations. Go and speak to a school counsellor. Your mum probably sees you doing it for attention because that just seems to be the trend. Perhaps you need to tell your mum that you are really hurting - don't mention the cutting - just talk about your emotional pain.

You can stop cutting, but you need proactive steps to help you through what you're dealin with.

Answer 9

poor lil thing goin through adolescence. just do yer time till ya get on with yer life and out of the house.
I had a hard time understanding why my mom remaried an guy that was such an asshole to me .
good luck and stop cuttin..... the cheese maybe lol

Answer 10

She is afraid and doesn't know how to deal with you or your issues. My niece is a cutter. She is currently in residential living for her cutting. (ie- a group home) It got really bad and her health was at stake. You need help. You need to force the issue with your mother. If she won't help, go to your school counselor. I know, they can be pretty lame, but really they do want to help.

Don't think this is nothing, and not important. Your not suppose to try and hurt yourself. That isn't the way it is suppose to be. Please get help for yourself. Don't end up like my niece, my heart breaks everyday when I think of her. How I wasn't able to help her, and her parents were like yours. (Ignore until it goes away)

Please reach out for help, and keep reaching until you get it. Please.