my ex is in a new relationship and i feel like he still cares for me but holds back his feelings.the way he looks at me, the way he lingers on the phone when he calls me.sometimes he starts conversations that are a little in depth about his feelings but he hesitates and never finishes.i would love to discuss these things with him but since we aren't together anymore i want to focus all my energy on me.i feel bad about not engaging in a conversation with him.i am so used to showing him love. i actually still love him but i've been able to seperate my feelings from my actions after we broke up.i would like to know how he is feeling. what should i do?
2007-02-25 13:29:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well most likely he hasn't moved on 100% its up to u tho to decide if it is worth talking to him or moving on. No one can make that for you. If you do decide to talk to im prepare yourself for either him wanting you or not. Also know what you want do u really want him back or just wanna move on :) Good luck
2007-02-25 13:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Amie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on with your life. If you are broken up and he is in a new relationship, he could sincerely have regrets and want you back, or he could just be playing you because he likes the attention he gets from you by doing that. You never know. If he sincerely has loving feelings toward you, then you need to allow HIM to do the thinking and re-evaluating things and allow HIM to make the move in that area. Show him that you deserve to be loved and cherished by whoever you are with, and that you are not going to wait around and hold your breath for him to decide that you are worthy. Make him show you that HE is worthy. You deserve, as everyone does, to be treated with love and respect. If you two broke up and he is with someone else but giving you the impression that he still cares about you, then he is not showing good character to you or his current girlfriend. He is leading you on and perhaps giving you false hope, while he is lying to his current girlfriend by allowing her to think that she is the only one he thinks about. Now is THAT the kind of guy you want to be putting your life on hold for? No? I didn't think so. Live your life. Be friends if you want to be, but don't let him think you have feelings for him. Let him work out his feelings on his own and come to you when he is ready, and then earn back your trust and show you that he deserves a second chance with you.
2007-02-25 13:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tough one. If you and your ex are still in love why would you break up. I am sorry to say it but it is too late to get back together. He already is with someone else and it is not fair to her that you two still show a loving relationship. No matter how hard it may be you need to both walk away. You can still be friends but keep a safe distance apart. If I were you I would try to start dating again to get my mind off of him. It may be extremely difficult but you nees to do it.
2007-02-25 13:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why you broke up. Look at what that reason was. Do you think you still love him now?
Try to find new friends and guys you like. Focusing on the past is a bad idea.
2007-02-25 13:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you either both need to get back together, or you should stop talking and move on with your lives. The only way your going to know how he feels is if you ask, don't be shy. Good luck!
2007-02-25 13:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by sugarbaby1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best advice is to come right out and ask him it'll be something he won't expect so u kinda trap him into answering ur questions. he still probably has feeling 4 u. u just can't stop suddenly caring about someone unless somthing really bad happend. so u should just ask him sorta out of the blue
2007-02-27 03:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by alvisdmahome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when this happens it is because they don't know how you feel. if he knows how you feel he might be afraid to get back with you because he don't want all the feelings to grow strong again and then be heart broken all over again.
The feelings will be there for a long time but sometimes it is just best to move on.
good luck and I hope you find happiness
2007-02-25 13:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is his own fault. if he really cares about u then he wouldnt be having another girlfriend and he would tell u.
the best thing to do even though u dont want to is talk to him. u can never go wrong with expressing ur heartfelt feelings with him.
if he doesnt understand he is probably not meant for u anyway.
2007-02-25 13:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by the.journey.is.the.reward. C.P. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 'ex' is an 'ex' for a reason...move on to greener pastures....don't sell yourself short, if he isn't putting out the effort to get with you and show you how much he loves you..find someone else to do it...
there is a quote "we must be willing to reliquish what we have to recieve what is truly meant for us"
2007-02-25 13:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its possible
if you are a shy person, then i suggest you do something that he likes when a girl does, depending on how he responds then u will finally kno, if you wanna get back with him of course.
if you are comfortable bein straight forward then just confront him about it, and just talk.
2007-02-25 13:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by dall4wwf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋