my family is super traditional....marriage then kids... well I have been dating this guy for 2 month and most of the time I have been pregnant....1.5 months. Well I finally decided to keep it.... and my boyfriend is really excited.... I mean I am 23 out of college no debt... and have a real job with a good company. But my dad is just like people in the family are going to have a BIG problem with this. Will they ever forgive me. I want this baby... i am giving up soo many dreams i have to have it... why can't they just be happy and excited for me??? PS the guy and I are thinking about getting engaged.
2007-02-25 13:26:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If they love you, they will forgive you
2007-02-25 13:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Hello,It'sMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really should be nothing to forgive they should understand that this type of thing happens a lot and a least you are over 18 and can provide a good solid home for this child and if they are so traditional in their thinking i would think any other option would be sooo out of the question and as for you and the dad getting engaged or married please think this trough a child is never a reason to get married yes its a nice idea to be married and have a baby but its not how it all ways works out and if you guys rush in to something just so your family understands then you will just be back on here in like 2 years asking if they will forgive you for a divorce so take your time and be grateful your guy is sticking around and you guys are still happy and together and deal with one life changing event as it comes along and not try to rush them all together! good luck and take one day at a time!
2007-02-25 13:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth of the matter is that when you became 21 you are legally considered to be an adult. Sounds as though you and your boyfriend are excited. I don't believe in abortion..so to me you have made the proper choice. Your family loves you and wants to protect you, and it sounds as though you all are really close. But at some point in life you have to stand up for yourself as a woman, and your boyfriend as a man. Don't give up your dreams...just put them off until you are comfortable to pursue them. Congratulations on your love child and future engagement. I believe things will work out for you and your baby and future husband. Your family will get over it...they just don't want you to have a hard life and have your happiness in mind. But not everyone has the same value for marriage in this day and age. Marriage has been demeaned by some people...that's why there's so many divorces. But I do think that you and your fiance' should spend time really getting to know each other. Sounds as though you're in the earlier stages of your relationship.
2007-02-25 13:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe they will. I have known a few girls your age whom have gotten pregnant and at first had problems with their families. I'm sure once they get over the initial shock and disappointment, they will come around. After all, your child will be a big member of the family. Once they realize the bigger issue at had is the happiness and well being of your baby, they will turn around. A baby is one of the greatest gifts a family can have, and I'm sure they will realize that and be happy for you. Give them a little time.
Plus, there are worst things that can happen to you, other then a baby. You could be a drug addict or an alcoholic.
2007-02-25 13:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they will.everybody will love you and the baby so much it will take time. as soon as the baby comes nobody in your family will want to miss out on being a part of your life. it should all fall into place. if it does not then you will still be fine. some advice. as a mother make sure YOU always provide stability for your child. hopefully you have a good co- parent, but sometimes relationships change and you want to be sure you have secured eveything the baby needs, not dependant on a man. best of luck.
2007-02-25 13:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is a tough one Your family might be angry at first, but i think when you prove yourself to them they will feel better about it. You say you have a good job and can support the baby with no problems. I would say
go for it. When the bundle arrives they will I'm sure change there mines. Babies can do that to people lol
Good luck with your new family and with your parents.
2007-02-25 13:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people overcome things when the baby comes, but there is no telling how your particular family will react. Hopefully they will see that this isn't the ultimate sin and that your baby is a reason to celebrate. Congratulations, by the way!
2007-02-25 14:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they will forgive you, it just takes time. I got pregnant when I was 18, and got married just before my 19th birthday. My son was born three months later. My family wasn't happy at first, but they still love me just the same.
2007-02-25 14:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard at first especially for them to cope with the fact your pregnant but give them time and they will see that you need them. Just give it time. A baby is a blessing no matter what the circumstances.
2007-02-25 13:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Tracy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on keeping the baby. its a good decision. your family will come around and get used to your new life. people just need time to adjust. make sure you really want to get married and dont do it just for the baby or it wont work. good luck.
2007-02-25 13:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by M&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 23 i would have thought contraception would be a must but anyway. Family will get used to the idea .why should you be forgiven you have a new life happening and its your life
2007-02-25 13:43:36 · answer #11 · answered by allamae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋