What makes a guy dump you after one meeting only? Have been told by everyone I am very pretty and I didnt offend him at all. He only kept talking through the whole date and didnt ask me any questions hardly and only met me for about an hour. What is going on???Found out hes had other relationships before, so he knows what he is doing---not like me who didnt have relationships.
Please help
2007-02-25 13:25:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was one date.
Move on
2007-02-25 13:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be one of two situations:
A) You didn't add anything to the encounter. You didn't share your points of view, ideas, beliefs, etc (I didnt offend him at all). So he probably took you to be shallow (Have been told by everyone I am very pretty). Probably thought you were too inexperienced (not like me who didnt have relationships). So having had other experiences with woman maybe found you to be those "high maintainence" type of gals.
or
B) He's playing you. He probably wants to get you into bed ASAP and the best way to do that is to show disinterest- that way the chick crawls to him. He behaved like a gentleman, showed intelligent conversation, then brushed you off like a piece of dirt on his collar. This makes confident women (those you have guys stepping on their tongues) confused and determined- determined to show the guy they mean business (read SEX).
So, if you automatically think it's B, then I assume it was A. But maybe it is both! Think of it this way- you only lost an hour of your life- why waste more?
2007-02-25 13:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough. I know it's devastating, my bf of 5 months dumped me last Christmas for one of my friends. It tore me apart. Don't dwell on this guy. You're obviously pretty so find some other guy who will give you a chance. Look on the bright side, you didn't know him well enough to have deep feelings for him so really this doesn't seem personal. Plus you don't have to spend more time with this loser and it will be easy to move right on. You did nothing wrong so theres no reason to worry. Best of luck!
2007-02-25 13:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by susie q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are we speaking approximately being fed with the aid of a woodchipper like Gaear Grimsrud does to the Steve Buscemi character in Fargo?? i could take the woodchipper till now spending 3 days with Miley Cyrus as Hannah Montana.
2016-10-01 23:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by czech 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sis,
I just wanted to let you know that it is ok to go slow with relationship stuff. I think that we need to guard our hearts so much more carefully than we do. It is easy to rush into feelings if you've never had them before, and it can be very confusing.
the important thing is to be careful.
The Bible says to guard your heart aboce all, because from it flows the wellsprings of life.
Be encouraged chica, he prollly isnt worht the emotions your investing.
hang in there!!
2007-02-25 13:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by spokenwordz03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a loser you don't WANT to keep around. Maybe you need to look at it from a different perspective...why is he so self-absorbed that he can't talk about YOU for a minute? Maybe it wasn't you that did anything wrong, maybe these other women have been willing to feed his ego. Who knows, be glad it's over.
2007-02-25 13:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds strange. It may not be so easy, but I recommend trying to forget about him, and look elsewhere. He sounds like a non-quality person to behave that way, so you'd most likely be better off having nothing to do with him anyway. You need someone who's for real.
2007-02-25 13:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe pretty but not everyone needs that type of person, maybe he likes a certain type of person and you were not it. Who cares one date for an hour move on no big deal.
2007-02-25 13:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can a guy dump you when you have just meet him you may be pretty but it takes a lot more than that to make a relationship.I guess he just didnt like you.
2007-02-25 13:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by allamae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was just a date. always consider the first date a test sort of thing. get to know them before you start thinking about relationship. if you go out on a 2nd date then start getting excited. on the 3rd date you should have a kiss. lol good rules of thumb. its worked for me even though my past relationships turned out bad :/ sounds like he wanted something he knew you werent ready to give. just dust yourself off and move on. there are lots of better men out there just dont always look for the emo's, gothics, and bad boys.
2007-02-25 13:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by U.S MARINE GREG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first impression I got is that he is possibly involved with someone else and talked a lot out of guilt? I don't think it's you at all. Don't even question yourself, he has issues.
2007-02-25 13:29:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋