death in the family?

Question

my bestfriends grandfather is dying. she goes to see him everyweek end in the hosipital. he has cancer and when she gets home she cant talk about it cause she is so upset. i know that she needs me but i dont know what to say, i can tell her that i am here for her but she already knows that ... help plase?

Answer 1

There is nothing you can do until she is ready. When she is she will need you. When my grandmother died i was really upset and i didn't want to talk to anyone. I just didn't think they would understand. It was a few weeks before i could talk about it,so just let her know when she is ready you will be there and just sit back and wait.
Lots of luck and i will say a prayer for her.

Answer 2

We all handle dying and death in different ways... You are doing the ONLY thing you can at this point, being there for her.. When she needs more from you she will let you know... There are NO words we can speak to take the pain from another person, we can only sit quietly by and listen when they speak... Holding her when she allows it, just sitting beside her when she is still, crying with her, holding her hand when she just needs the human contact.... that is all You can do..... If you feel she needs to maybe go for a walk, ask her to take one with you, do NOT try to push her into doing anything, ASK her if she wants to go shopping, walking , biking, or just nothing.... Let her dictate the actions, if is her grief and pain.... Being a good friend is enough at this point in time...... God bless

Answer 3

You seem to really care for your friend. It may not seem easy to talk to her right now, but there are other ways of telling her that you care. Send her a card or buy her a cute stuffed animal. Watch a movie together at a sleepover.
If you feel like you should talk to her, begin by saying that she can trust you to always be there for her, then try to help her have a little fun for awhile.
You can let her know you're there by giving her comforting hugs, and allowing her to cry out her emotions to you. TRUST ME! Your friend will appreciate the fact that you are there. Be willing to listen to her, and don't feel like you have to rrespond right away. I've been there for a lot of my friends, and I know it works just to sit with them, and offer them a shoulder to cry on. God is looking out for you all, and I'll pray that he'll give your friend the strength to cope, and that he'll give you the right words to say to her. God hears the weeping of His children, so do not give up hope.

Answer 4

At this point its almost best just to be a good listener. Also its not what you could say but things that you could do for her. Maybe buy her some flowers or get her her favorite movie or chocolate.

Answer 5

wow that is so weardd i just went throught the same thing =]

myy beswt friends dad died.. from cancer like 3 types.. it was really sad. you really just need to be there for them.. i mean ther snothing that you can say or do unless you have b een in this sit. seeing as we both haven't... all you can do is let them noe that you are ther no matter whatt.. trust me she will come to you just like my friend did to me.. =] friends are forever. and when she needs you make sure your there. she nnoes that you care.. she noe that ur sad.. but she really needs to know that ur there to talk. or do sumthign for her. no matter what!

i hope everythign works out fur her. my wishes to her


best of luck. my wishes to you.too.!

Answer 6

i lost my grandpa too and i know how hard it is to deal with that kind of loss. really if you have lost someone importanttell her about it. she will be glad to know that someone understands how she feels. if you haven't lost anyone then tell her that the pain of the loss will never really go away but you will always be her shoulder to cry on. mabe you should go to the hospital with her to see for your self what she's really feeling.