my new husband and i have chrilden and why is displine allways an issue
2007-02-25 13:09:47 · 4 answers · asked by crystal w 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am not sure if I am understanding your question correctly. I think that you mean that you and your new husband have children from previous relationships. And is discipline an issue between you and him, or between you and the children.
Either way you guys have to work as a team. I know it is not always easy but it is very important.
Everyone has different ways of raising their children. But when you come together to form a family it is imperative that you find a method that works for both of you and stick to it. When you guys disagree on the disciplining the children see this (even if you think they do not) and use it to their advantage.
Work together not against eachother and you will see what a difference it makes!
2007-02-25 13:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by foolnomore2games 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the issue is, are there step-parents issues? Or is it that you and he can't agree? If the issue is that you can't agree, stop looking at it as an all-bad thing. That means your kids have twice the opportunity to learn about how the world should work. To solve any disciline issue, you and your hubby will need to do two things. The first is to make a big poster for your bedroom that says, "the kids' issues stay out of this room", that room is your sanctuary and your place to connect. Make another paper on the computer, print two. At the top type, "Discipline means to teach. What are the important lessons?" Then each of you makes a list of the things you need to teach your kids. Do this apart from each other. Then come together and compare. Some of the things on the list will be important to both of you and some things will be important to only one of you. Here's the thing, it is important to you or your spouse so it becomes important to both of you, period. Then decide on a few lessons to work on for now and A STRATEGY TO TEACH THE LESSON. This will change your mindset from that of fighting with each other for control to that of working as a team to teach. Once you get the hang of it, the rest will follow and be easier. Good luck.
P.S. If there is a step-parent issue, do this with all three or four parents, it really will work. A team strategy means no one is the bad guy.
2007-02-25 22:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because everyone has their own idea of what disipline should be. some people believe in spanking, some people dont. some believe in sending their kids to bed with no supper, others consider that cruel. you are going to have to sit down with your husband, with no kids around, and talk to him about what he thinks good discipline is and what you think good discipline is and try to find a happy medium.
2007-02-26 01:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by unimatrix_42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cuz if you dont discipline ur children,, they gonna become brats and have no sympathy for anyone.
2007-02-25 21:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by twistedloves 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋