i have a boy friend but my dad don't like him and i really like him and he like me too some one help me i don't know what to do my boy friend is afrade of my dad, he been in this sam kind of truble befor and he don't wont to get in it agin so what should i do? and he's lik 6 years older then me. but it is love we already head sex and everything..... i don't know should i listin to my dad or what...... can someone help me?
2007-02-25 13:06:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that u should listen to your dad. He knows a whole lot more than u. and your boyfriend had to do something the last time. things like that dont happen twice for no reason and maybe your dad can sence something that u can't . Sex does not always mean love. I f nothing else your dad and boyfriend could sit down and talk face to face like men. If your boyfriend will not stand up to your dad then how can yaw have a long lasting realtionship?????? The age differance may have something to do with your dad not likeing the realtionship.
2007-02-25 13:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by purple_mustang_girl08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you should probably ask your dad if you can have a conversation objectively about "bob". Tell him the reasons why you like him, and let him give you some feedback. Try to be objective yourself, because otherwise your going to have a huge yelling match. Your relationship with your dad is extremely important, and although it might not seem like it, more important than your boyfriend. I'm not saying that you should dump him just because your dad doesn't like him, but you should picture the situation from your dads point of view. Since I don't really know the situation, I can't really give that great of advice. I think the fact that he's 22 and your 16 may not seem like a big difference, but it really is. He could just be using you. I know that sounds harsh, but I've been in a similar situation. Good luck!
2007-02-25 13:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart. Nevermind what your dad or anyone says, this is your personal life, nobody else should have anything to do with it other than the person you are dating. Maybe talk to your dad and find out exactly what he does not like about your boyfriend. I think your dad will evenually warm up to him and accept him over time.
I have a cousin that was dating an older guy when she was seventeen and her dad's a cop! For the longest time he would not accept her boyfriend, and he didn't even go to their wedding, but over time he did warm up to her new husband and is accepting things for how they are. Good Luck!
2007-02-25 13:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Woody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GRAMMAR, please! Anyway. How old are you, I'm wondering? You didn't give us that piece of information, and that could change everything. Six years older is a lot older, depending on where your age is. Your dad should be a little upset if you are let's say 16 and below. And if you are 16 and below, then you should NOT be having sex with someone six years old. Listen to your dad if you are that age. If you are 17 and older, then explain to your dad calmly that you are old enough to make your own desicions. It's the truth and he'll have to understand. If not, too bad. You're an adult, you make your own choices.
2007-02-25 13:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Emirii 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all, age differences are common dislikes of parents. Don't let them get in the way, but also, don't push out their advice completely. It's true that sexual activity with an older guy may not be the greatest idea, but you shouldn't give up on showing your parents who he really is, and soon, before you lose him. Prove to them that he's not so bad and that you really care about him, and maybe they'll change their minds.
2007-02-25 13:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by AnneMarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to take a step back and look at this situation - why doesn't your dad like him? there must be a reason, consider it and see if that reason make sense for you to break it off. Ultimately, it is your decision, but keep in mind - sex doesn't always equal love. Love is a deeper connection than that.
2007-02-25 13:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by meenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in same situation when I was a teen.
Have you asked your dad why he hates him?
I went behind my dads back and eventually got caught and got in alot of trouble you have to think is he worth that much to you?
If yes then maybe give it a few more weeks sneeking and see what happens if not then tell him nicely you care about him but you have to do what you dad tells you to do.
Really think about this and do what your heart tells you ok girly :)
2007-02-25 13:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Redrlz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so I know I will sound old to you....but.... one day you will understand your dad. He is looking out for you not just trying to make you life awful. He use to be a young guy too. He knows what is going on. Listen to your dad.
2007-02-25 13:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Glenda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should be listening to your dad, he has your best interest in mind and doesn't like your boyfriend for good reasons; if you are going to ignore the adults in your life that know better, you are too young to be having sex; with that said, two things....practice safe sex; and pay more attention to your school work, your spelling is atrocious
2007-02-25 13:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok you said that he is six years older than you are, but how old are you. Talk to your dad and ask him if your bf age is the only reason that like him. Maybe your fther sees something in his age and something in his actions that you don't need in your life right now. Sometimes when we are in love we don't we are blinded by it.
2007-02-25 13:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by btjuana 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋