how do i get my dad to spend time with me like he used to?? (read for more info)?

Question

up until 3 years ago my dad would always come up and he would spend around 2 or 3 hours with me everyday. after he married my step-mom he would still come up but it wouldn't be just him like it used 2 be he would bring my 3 little step-sisters. at first i was fine with it but then my step-mom started coming 2 and i got tired of not being able 2 spend any time alone with my dad so when he would call 2 see if i wanted him 2 come up i would ask 2 wait until the next day. now he doesn't even call me anymore and about once or twice every 6 months he will come up for about a half hour and then leave. i really miss spending time with him like i used 2. what would be a good way 2 get him 2 call like he used 2 or at least get him 2 stay longer when he comes up??

just so you know i live with my aunt and thats why i dont see him every day.

and i know it's not because he's 2 busy because he takes my older sister (who lives with her mom) out 2 dinner every thursday and my older brother (who lives with his mom) out 2 lunch every saturday

Answer 1

You need to tell your dad how you are feeling. Let him know that it has nothing to do with your feelings about his new family, just the loss of the family you shared with him in your life. He must understand that living with your aunt isn't providing you with the parental support we all need in our youth to understand that we are loved unconditionally. Ask him questions about his actions, why he has chosen to grow furthur from you. Maybe he was feeling as though he was imposing, perhaps he is riddled with guilt and feeling as though he abandoned you. Set his mind at ease and let him know you just want some bonding time, some time to make memories with him. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

It could be that his wife probably is having a problem with him wanting to spend time with you. She would rather have him not be alone with you, but would rather have her and his three daughters there too. He should try to do his best to see you more, rather then letting his wife control him. I don't really know if that is the case here.

Just talk to him and tell him that you need to see him more, if he still doesn't make some changes, then that will show you that he really doesn't care. So, set some time with him during the week or week-end and meet with him at a restaurant or spend time by going to the movies or park.

Now, that he has his own family, not sure if he is too busy or what, but he needs to make time for you too.

Answer 3

Wow. I am so sorry! Well there are a few things you can do. You can talk to a school consuler about this problem. Or you can just tell your dad that u would love it if you guys spent a day together just the two of you, like you used to! Or you can talk to your aunt about it and how you wish you guys could just hang for a day or two. Those are the few options. I hope you get a day or two with your dad! Have fun! Good luck! here to help!

Answer 4

Hon, I really feel for you! the hurt you have gone through really tugs at me emotionally, the reason for this is I have a daughter like you, whom I love very dearly! And as a dad I can understand your own fathers rejection by you, when you made him wait a extra day! Sweetie! tell your dad what you have written here, and I bet he's back with open arms for you, and your step-mum too! Try it hon! you have nothing to loose but everything to gain, haven't you? God bless! and I hope it works for you.

Answer 5

y dont u sit down and tell him .hey dad i miss spending time with u.just you and me nobody else like it used to be .then after this set up a date were just you and your dad can go out.and every week do somthing with him make it like a tradition