I've made a big mistake with this girl. I fell for her pretty quickly, which is rare, because Im so picky. We went out on three dates and I think I may have come on too strong. Not going to get into details, except last time we talked she totally seemed uninterested. We are in two of the same college courses and in one of them we sit together.
So Like i said, I think shes uninterested now, maybe because I came on too strong. So besides the fact that I need to lay off a bit, what else can i do?
2007-02-25 12:51:50 · 15 answers · asked by MHL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We already had a discussion about us a few days ago. She pretty much said she enjoys me, but she is not ready to move on because of her tough past. She is still attending counseling because her bf died in a car crash 2 years ago. Sounds like there is something between us, but she is defending herself from hurt... i guess
2007-02-25 13:02:47 · update #1
Talk to her and ask her
2007-02-25 12:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know how you showing interest in her could turn her off like that. Atleast she went on that many dates with you, but I think that if you really think coming on strong is a bad thing in this situation, how far do you think this is going to go? If this is an imfatuation, those won't last, but if this feels like it could be something special, then depending on the type of person you are, confront her about it (if you're good enough friends), or continue to act the way you do and see how things go. I wouldn't act uninterested though because that could blow up in you're face and maybe she will feel that you don't want to be with her.
2007-02-25 20:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by itsgoofytime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably doing the same thing or feeling the same way. She's laying it low for a little bit. Getting too close too soon can be a scary thing. I would keep a low profile and definitely lay off for a while. She will gain interest in you again when you aren't showering her with so much attention. Be smooth about it, but don't treat her badly either. The trick here is to have patience.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-25 20:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by imconfusedallthetime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to come on so strong next time you two hang out. Just lay back and talk like you would with anyone else. It may help you out but if not you could find someone else.
2007-02-25 20:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by savanna o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize tell her your passion ran strong that night because your feelings are the same. Ask if a opportunity to resolve things is possible. You should know by reaction if you will have any future chances with her and go from there.
2007-02-25 20:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by stephenmwells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am a female if A guy played a little hard to get might help. Keep a little space ( even though I know its hard ) for a few days and see if she talks to you or contacts you if she does then she likes you if she doesnt I am sorry to say she is not interested.
Good Luck!
2007-02-25 20:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Redrlz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just trying to see how interested you are by ingoring you. Maybe lay low for a while and if she is interested she'll have to make a move. Then live happier ever after!
2007-02-25 20:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ivan S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and tell her. "last time we went out i might have come on strong. that is not me at all. let me take you out to dinner and show you what i am really like." somthing like that might work if that doesn't and she says no say your sorry and hang up. there are more fishes in the sea
2007-02-25 20:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by bls123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend and enjoy your time together. Nobody knows what the future holds. Just go with the flow :-)
2007-02-25 20:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Royce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should ask her what she would like to talk about or something to get her mind off of the acsident of her bf good luck
2007-02-25 21:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by shawna d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push her to talk to u, give her space, but u can't make someone like you.... just try hard to be just friends..... show her you're sorry. take it slow for a while
2007-02-25 20:57:16 · answer #11 · answered by Chickadee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋