Lately my husband and I have felt pretty distant. I love him so much he means the world to me and I don't mean to snap at him when I am doing things. I am just fustrated because I am in pain because my baby is kicking the living crap out of me inside I cant wait till she comes out. but how do I let him know that he still means the most to me and that I still love him. How do I do that? Any suggestions?
2007-02-25 12:49:28 · 17 answers · asked by Star's mommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Tell him that and just communicate with him. You might also want to drop the yelling habit. I got that while I was pregnant too but it hurts feelings and its hard to stop after you do it for so long.
2007-02-25 12:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by moonlitocean2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easiest and best way is simple little things, like first of all apologizing when you snap at him and explain that you're in pain and would like his support in your time of need. However, if this is your first pregnancy, it's likely he doesn't really have a clue what to do, so reach out to him with simple gestures like a smile, a hug, something extra special for dinner or something like that when you're not feeling so bad, but when you are try to help him help you but letting him know nicely what you want or what you're feeling. Sometimes it's hard to be nice and polite when you're in pain and it seems like the other person doesn't understand your pain, but it's worth the effort. Also, taking some kind of class at a local rec center or something like that, for example at my center there's a class where they show husbands massage techniques, will give the two of you a chance to connect and spend some quality time together.
2007-02-25 12:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tetris Panther 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try making special time that you just focus on him. He needs to feel like he matters too. There's no way to completely control your emotionally charged behavior but you can control most of your time & as long as you truly care about your husband & his feelings; it will show. Remember too that YOU are the one carrying the child & anyone that doubts how hard pregnancy is really needs more help than you can give. Take care of yourself & dont stress too much if you can help it & remind him of the big picture- the 2 of you have a baby on the way that is a miracle & at the same time will absolutley love AND challenge you both more than you thought possible. your mood swings are frustrating but you have a real life in your belly right now!!! don't focus on the negative- you're giving him a child. You have to be nice to you in order to be to anyone else ESPECIALLY the child you are carrying:) Congrats!!
2007-02-25 13:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something special that you two use to do before you got pregnant. And also just tell him and stop taking it out on him it is not his fault. A baby makes a big change in your lives, so i would not be pushing him away but pulling him closer. If you really love him stop being frustrated with this kicking other women deal with it you can too.
2007-02-25 13:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First send him here so that he can read how you really feel. Then I agree with a romantic dinner at home with a small homemade gift. Why not coupons made by you for him. One for each month of your pregnancy. Little things like a full body massage, dinner, etc............ Which he can redeem anytime that month. (once you have given birth of course. And just be open and honest - when you feel that rage - walk away - take a break - relax - then go back to talk about it.
2007-02-25 13:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by ch0r0_matsu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him a nice dinner and watch a movie together. Or rub his shoulders and tell him your are sorry you've been frustrated lately but you really appreciate and love him.
Think of something he really enjoys and make it a point to do that for him.
It'll make him feel better and secure, and in turn he'll be more willing to do all the things you need.
Good luck~!
2007-02-25 12:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter. Or leave him a little note in his lunch, breifcase, car, someplace unexpected. You could even include your favorite picture of two of you with the note. Being pregnant is heard on both of you. You are in physical discomfort, and your husband is probably freaking out about supporting another person or being responsible for another person.
Good luck to you both, and I hope things work out for you.
2007-02-25 12:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, let him know that you know how people act when theyre preg.
2007-02-25 12:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could write him a "love letter". When your feeling in the right frame of mind write down what you want to tell him. Tell him all you are feeling and be sure to say what's in your heart.
2007-02-25 12:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by starfire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont really have any advice to give you but id just like to tell you are not the only one...i been doing the same thing to my boyfriend! i feel guilty about it all the time but im like 9 months along and having constant braxton hicks which suck!
2007-02-27 17:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by n&z-mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋