He also said that he was dating me but that we were better as friends. When I called him on it he took the laptop and deleted the rest of the messages so I couldn't read them. He said that she was an old friend and that he was just venting. I told him I'm leaving but he's begging me to stay. he says that he loves me. What should I do?
2007-02-25 12:31:04 · 8 answers · asked by HatingF8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went through this exact same situation with my ex. He said that the girl was "just a friend", that he was just "flirty", and that was his personality. He also said he would stop because it made me so uncomfortable. And he never did. I only found more messages on Myspace, and then the girls started calling his cell phone. When a guy loves the one he is with, he will defend her to no end, not "vent" to some "beautiful" girl on the internet. He is disrespecting you, and though I know it's hard, you need to think about moving on. From my experience, if he's doing it now, it will only continue, and if he feels comfortable disrespecting you online, there may come a time (if not already) that he feels comfortable doing it in real life.
I know how hard it is, and that you want to believe him. In my case, he even tried to turn it around on me, saying that I was overreacting to him having female friends. However, I don't know any other guys that consistently call their female friends beautiful and tell them that they think about them all the time. So, don't allow that to happen to you. I suggest getting out before he has the chance to hurt you even more, and worse, makes you start doubting yourself. Good luck, sweetie.
2007-02-25 13:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...well first you need to realize your feelings towards him, like whether you really love him, or if you really are better off as friends. From the sounds of what he did, if he was just 'venting' he wouldn't of deleted the rest of the messages and wouldn't of been ashamed of what had been written. I think, it might be best if you asked him why he needed to vent out, and then why he couldn't of told you first, for whatever reason that may be. I'd say try that, before actually doing anything drastic, to see if at all this can be talked out and fixed
2007-02-25 20:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by living_the_wave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said you were better off as friends so then do so.
You deserve better and conplementing another chick =/ was this on a pic comment or on a meesage. He should never call a girl beautiful when he's with someone else the only people who should be beautiful to them is there mothers and ther lovers.
2007-02-25 20:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Meechelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please leave him. I know from experience that if there are lies like that, there are going to be more. If he is saying you two are better off as friends, then he might be messing around on you with someone else, especially if he deleted things so you couldn't see them (what is he hiding?). I hope he isn't, like my boyfriend did to me, but it might happen. You can find a great guy and not have to worry about stuff like that.
2007-02-25 20:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough because now all your going to think about is whether hes taking crap about your relationship .Most people say the truth when they think no ones going to hear (or read) . Be honest with yourself do you really want to stay????
2007-02-25 20:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by suzanne w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same trouble w/ mine.... jus tell him how u really feel and he said that u were better off as friends so u should leave him...
2007-02-25 20:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by GiiGii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS A PLAYER
MOVE ON
2007-02-25 20:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm, snooping huh? what did you expect to find.
2007-02-25 20:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋