2007-02-25 12:26:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think prenups are good in situations where there is lots of mone or land involved! Otherwise a prenuptial is just a legal document preventing u from cheating or whatever it maybe! In my opinion there is no guarantee so why do u need one u are marrying with love and trust right? So then the person doesnt trust u obvously!
2007-02-25 12:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with prenups it saves the drama of losing your things that you acquired before the relationship. But there needs to be an understanding that what is acquired while in the relationship is fair game that if anything should happen where the relationship shouldn't work out then those things should be split equally among the two.
My reaction if presented with a prenup wouldn't be upsetting because I would want that person to react that way because those things are there belongings not ours.
2007-02-25 20:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think prenups have to be looked at based on the individual situation. I'm 47 and dating a man who is 50. He has a 15 year old son and I have a grown daughter who is 26. He owns a home, I don't...so if we were to get married, I would not be offended or even question a prenup....he has many things that he had before he ever met me...and his son should get those if something happens to him and until the marriage proves itself to viable...I should not be entitled to half of what is his if we divorce. After a reasonable period of time say 10 or 15 years the prenup should probably be dissolved...I mean if you stick it out that long you deserve to be a full partner in all aspects of the relationship including material and financial.
2007-02-25 20:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately Prenups are more and more common now a days and I am planning on getting one when I get married. I think they are just a fact of life these days and I don't think that anyone should see it as a lack of trust. But if you love the person it won't matter if theres a prenup or not...you should want to do anything to be with that person so signing a prenup shouldn't matter.
2007-02-25 20:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by pianogirlrach 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe prenups are the best idea in the world. It helps before hand if there is going to be a divorce and since more than 1/2 of the marriage dissolve it is naive to think it couldn't happen.
If I was presented with one I would be extremely pissed off.
2007-02-25 20:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Prenups? Good question. If I were presented with one, it would depend on the contents. Like if he died and I was left out in the cold, after all or years together, I'd be P-OWED! I wouldn't want his fortune. I'd like to think that I was an important part of his life and that I deserved to have a roof over my head...
2007-02-25 20:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Oppna to tal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in this day in age they are much needed. I think I would be a little hurt as it shows you wouldn't trust me to handle a break up maturely and fairly, but some people just turn outright nasty after a breakup. I think if you show the benefits to both parties of a prenup it shouldn't pose a problem. If you both really love each other it won't matter anyways as you hopefully will never need it!
2007-02-25 20:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by BrutalNerd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly both parties should agree to one before marriage if there is property involved or children or significant financial resources.
Property: If one moves into the home of the other, and sells their own place, need to decide if the title should be changed.
Children: Really important to put this into writing, if one spouse has a child or children, or if both do--need to decide up front that in the event of a divorce, who has control of what property and other assets so that greedy children don't get involved later. Also important to immediately have a will upon marriage when there are step children to ensure the assets are distributed or at least reserved for the children of one side or the other. I have a brotherinlaw whose dad gave nearly everything of his grandmother's to the step brothers at the insistance of the wife--even though the stepbrothers barely knew the step grandmother, were grown at the time of marriage. So family heirlooms passed to people with no ties to them. Another family I know-the wife just realized the other day that is she died, and her husband remarried, there is no guarentee her daughter by a previous marriage would be taken care of--the property, on which she lives also in another house, would automatically go to the husband at her death, with no share going to the daughter. A new marriage and death of the husband a few years later, and the new wife could own all of the property-not the daughter who was essentially raised by the husband but not adopted. Same thing could happen if both husband and wife die; without a will, which they don't have, his family would be entitled to 1/2 of everything even though he has no children and the step daughter who calls him dad would only get the wife's share of the estate..
2007-02-25 20:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would have signed one if my husband had wanted one. It should not matter unless your marrying for money . If you want a prenup signed and they wont sign it , think about what they really want. True love signs. Golddiggers dont.
2007-02-25 20:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by suzanne w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prenups are just precautionary, divorce rates are higher than ever, in my opinion, it would be stupid to marry without one
2007-02-25 20:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋