I'm methodist my fiance is catholic and we're trying to get married at a protestant chapel but they won't let us proceed until we get approval from the catholic church. The only way the catholic church will approve is if we promise to raise our kids as catholic, he has to promise to try to convert me to catholic and I have to promise not to try to convert him to methodism. We still need to do all this even though we don't want a catholic church, a catholic ceremony or a catholic priest. Anyone know why?
2007-02-25 12:17:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, they won't kick him out of the Church. For goodness' sake, what drama! lol...
All Catholics are obligated to be married in accordance with the Catholic faith, because marriage is one of the Sacraments, or sacred ceremonies. Your marriage, if not conducted by a priest in a Catholic church, must be approved after the fact, ("sanated") by the Church. Otherwise, the Church doesn't consider your marriage to be valid by canon law.
Catholics are required to raise their children in the Catholic faith. However, parishes no longer require the non-Catholic party to make the promise you mention. Nor is your fiance required to try to convert you. Protestants cannot just decide to become Catholic; it is a process called RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults) that usually lasts from September through Easter. Your conversion can only occur through your own free will.
2007-02-25 12:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by around_the_world_jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another church and/or officiant.
The Catholic church does not recognize marriages performed from another church. The only way a Catholic can get divorced is with permission. And the only way they can get remarried is with permission.
But if your fiance isn't a practicing Catholic & he doesn't care one way or the other, then you should be able to find a minister to marry you. I don't understand what's up with this Methodist one. I'm a nondenominational minister. I do interfaith marriages as well as christian & civil ceremonies.
To find an officiant, type into Yahoo your city, state & wedding officiant (no 's' on the end) You will have some to choose from, usually on the second page as the bigger bridal site seem to get top billing. If you do go to a bridal site & see someone you might like, visit their site. Those bridal sites manke vendors & officiants pay for your contact info so you may not always hear back from some.
2007-02-25 13:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll trying to find the link for you before I finish this post but an active practicing Catholic has to abide by the rules of the church and for anyone seeking to marry a non-Catholic (I'm in this boat myself as the non-Catholic). Everything I saw also required Catholic premarital counseling but if you don't have to that then I wouldn't bring it up. You have to agree to not interfere with the children's religious instruction but you don't have to convert. No matter where you want to get married you have to get the church's approval otherwise his marriage to you will not be recognized. As we are discussing marriage now I've been looking into the whole thing because I know how important his faith is to him while I can honestly say I've been a little lax. I'll likely be converting but that's just my decision.
2007-02-25 12:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does NOT have to try to convert you. That is not what the form says. It says only that he will continue to practice his faith. He does have to promise to raise his children Catholic if you want their blessing. I don't know why they would need to bless it if you are marrying outside the Catholic church. Is he still practicing? Perhaps if he is practicing the Protestants want to stay on good terms with the Catholics?
2007-02-25 12:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by rosekm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically if your husband to be doesnt promise these things from what i know about it they will pretty much kick him out of the catholic church as for me i'd tell the catholic church to stick it and not let them try and run my life. since he is catholic they think they can run ur life for you and ur childrens life for them as well. i would tell the catholic church that you dont need their approval and go on with ur wedding as planned
2007-02-25 12:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because marriage is a Sacrament-- that is a visible sign of God's invisible Love for us. Have your fiance tell the Chapel he doesn't want the Catholic Sacrament.
Also whoever is telling you about converting is dead wrong so ignore it.
2007-02-25 12:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YA KNOW, I NEVER UNDERSTOOD THEM CATHOLICS...............I MEAN SERIOUSLY, THEY ARE JUST SO CONFUSING............THATS WHY IM BAPTIST
2007-02-25 12:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by rita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋