So i have this friend who i've been talking to for a while now and we both like each other, we both have told each other how we feel about each other and we both agree that we want a relationship together. Here's the but. Everytime i call her or txt her she never answers or returns my txts and phonecalls. It's as if i'm putting in all the effort and she's not putting any in. I've been having some trouble kickstarting the relationship with her. Again it seems i'm doing all the trying and she puts in whenever she wants which is hardly ever. I really like her but i have no idea what the hell to do. I'm really patient but should i continue trying or just give up? What would you do.
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2007-02-25 12:13:39 · 13 answers · asked by apocalyptic ghost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may want to wait until people quit posting answers to your question before you exercise my suggestion, but now or later here's what I recommend.
You are already at your computer or you wouldn't be reading this. So, reach over turn on the printer and print your question and all the answers. Put them together and give them to her. Tell her it is time to commit one way or the other.
As my Dad would say, it is time to SHlT or get off the pot.
Good Luck on this one, I fear you will need all you can get. And make damn sure she is sincere if you continue the relationship.
2007-02-25 13:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Write her an email or letter, tell her how you feel, then wait some more. Tell her you want to see her and txt her and call, but she seems a little too busy and you want to know if you should back off.
If she doesnt respond within a week, you should move on. She may just have alot going on right now and no time for a relationship.
Good luck and I hope it works out for ya!
2007-02-25 20:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give up. Even if you did get a relationship going, you would be the one expected to do all the work... make the plans, solve the arguments etc. If she was feeling the same as you and wanted a commitment she would return your calls and feelings. Sorry, but you can't start a healthy relationship already feeling confused and distant.
2007-02-25 20:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit and move on. There's more to a relationship than looks. Sounds like the 'talking for a while' only happens in person and that's not how it should be.
I would probably call her on her behavior while I am at it and as long as you tell yourself and believe you're moving on at least you might find out why she is putting you off.
2007-02-26 13:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by rangerbaldwin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like one of those women (which is the majority of them) who thinks the man is supposed to do all of the work and supposed to constantly be proving himself worthy of her. If she's going to be playing these type of games and this early in the relationship to boot, then I'd drop her. And I'd do it through a text message because she hasn't done anything to deserve it being done in person. But that's just me. If you want to be around her and don't mind having to continually jump through hoops, then you might want to stay with her.
Additional: Please don't do what the guy below me suggests. It is never a good idea to give someone who is messing with your head any more ammunition to do so, which is what giving her a printout of this would do. It would allow her to be ready for anything you might ask her and to come up with excuses in order to play you further.
2007-02-25 20:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it's time for you to move on. If she wanted the relationship very badly she would be getting back to you within a heartbeat of when you tried to contact her. I'm sorry, but it just doesn't sound like she's that into you...no matter what she's said in the past about wanting a relationship. Don't be a doormat to her.
2007-02-25 20:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by HomeGrown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she doesn't want to hurt your feelings and shes avoiding doing that by just avoiding you altogether.
Women are, by nature, emotional and most of the time, we'll react before giving any major thought to something. Other times, we do just the opposite and give it too much thought.
I'd set yourself up some limits here....and be bold and brutually honest with her.....one more time.....tell her how you feel, what your expectations are (even if you don't know what to expect...say just that *I don't know what to expect with us, but this is what I would like to happen....*) And if she is still hesitant and avoiding you...then it is time to move on.
Just think.....the very next person you meet/talk to...could be *The One*......isn't that exciting????
Life is so grand that way!
Best of luck!
2007-02-26 12:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by L ♥ L ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't calling back, seek new girlfriend. THere is no reason for that. A relationship is about trust, and dependability, and lots of other stuff. If she's busy on occasion thats one thing, but persistantly avoiding is another. Good luck
2007-02-25 20:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask her.
It sounds to me like she is putting you off because she is uncertain. Maybe there is another guy or maybe she just doesn't trust you enough yet. If you have a reputation as a player it is certainly a trust issue.
Get to know her better. It will help you to understand where she is coming from and it will help her to trust you.
Oh, and texting or messenging or whatever is NOT talking.
2007-02-25 20:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by For my next trick... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her again if she is ready for a relationship,she might not.
2007-02-25 20:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋