I want her to wear high heels, nylons, knee-highs, thongs, see-thrus, miniskirts, victoria secret, etc. She has the body but she doesnt have the nerve... It annoys me to see some other girls that dont have the body but do have the nerve! I go to extra length to look fashionable and sleek, but all she ever wears looks like she borrowed it from her grandma... I have been telling her time and time again - no results :-( Help!
2007-02-25 12:00:08 · 7 answers · asked by Rona9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump her and find a girl with low self-esteem.
2007-02-26 20:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really care for her or even love her you would spend the time finding out WHY she feels uncomfortable wearing those sort of things. She maybe worried about looking cheap & nasty in see through clothes.. Maybe start by buying her some things that she can wear in private around the house. Then as her confidence grows she maybe more willing to wear in public. You are asking her to come out of her comfort zone in a huge way. You don't say how old you both are. You can't expect her to change herself overnight, start with babysteps. A different top this month, a new skirt next month.
2007-02-25 12:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her do anything. You can make your preferences known and encourage her when she dresses how you like, but it will always be up to her to decide what she wants to wear.
It's kind of strange don't you think for a guy who is into dressing up and has these rigid expectations to start dating a woman who prefers granny dresses. I mean, what attracted her to you in the 1st place? If it's just that babelicious body then you're forgetting that a woman is not just a pair of legs, a great figure and some exposed skin. I hate to break this to you man, but you're sounding like a controlling, sexcrazed jerk.
Now, I appreciate a fine woman in fine clothes as much as anybody but I wouldn't get that bent out of shape if my girl didn't want to look like a ho in public. I'd appreciate the fact that she has more sense than that.
I'm going to assume that you're not truly a misogynyst, that maybe you overstated your question a bit. It's just your fetish for leg ware and all speaking. OK, then you honestly are asking how to encourage your partner that you care about and respect to dress a little naughty from time to time.
In that case I would suggest talking to her about your fetish and explaining to her what that does for you. Don't go into the conversation planning for her to change her mind. Go in with the idea that you want to tell her what turns you on, explain why it does and ask if she'd maybe like to try it in the privacy of her own home some night when she's feeling a little nasty. Better yet, ask her what you could do for her that she would like to try in the bedroom. It may be nothing, but it helps if you show her this isn't a 1-way street.
If she shows enough of an interest, tell her you want to take her to a Victorias Secret out away from where she lives and buy her something nice. You two will pick it out together, and she can wear it at home at some time when she feels like it. Put in the time, spend the money, show how much you care for her. Let her pick out the least revealing thing they have and offer to buy her 6 pair of granny panties too.
If she doesn't like your idea, doesn't want to try it, is too shy or whatever, then you have to think real hard about where this relationship is going. Can you live without your ultimate fantasy? Is it time to reevaluate and discuss the issues between you 2? That is the risk you take by putting so much emphasis on something.
If she says OK, let's go shopping, then you will still have to be patient, wait for her to decide she's ready to try, and then encourage her for the effort no matter how it turns out. And satisfy her fetish while you're at it. Eventually she may start to like the idea and want to try something a little more risky. Later she may want to take another step. You have to let her make the decisions. It's her body that's being put on show, not yours.
If she eventually comes around to wearing nothing but hose and a garter belt under a micro mini with a mesh top and no bra, you will have reached the the peak of your sexual fantasies with the hard work, patience and perserverance it takes to complete any goal. You can remember it the rest of your life. You will have to b/c it will never be the same again.
You can be proud to know that you did it with your partner's full consent and that she gave it to you as a gift of love. By then you'll be in a thriving, balanced relationship, you'll love your girl and you'll never want to hurt her in any way. Then the two of you can try to figure out what's next b/c once your fantasy has been reached your outlook on sex will change.
Don't rush your fantasies.
2007-02-25 12:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her some of the things you want her to wear, and ask her to try them on for you... give her compliments and encourage her, but if she doesnt want to, then you have to accept that shes not comfortable... it shouldnt really matter what she wears...
2007-02-25 12:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buy them for her and show her how hot she is but beware what you wish for you will not be only one that is attracted
2007-02-25 12:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by jeepin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demand it. You're the man, act like one. Geez..... grow some balls.
2007-02-25 12:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tellus A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no want it , you go out and enjoy her sex
2007-02-25 12:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋