My daughter and I can't seem to get along. She is a very disrespectfull and rude. She thinks it's funny to hurt my feelings. She is becoming the type of girl I didn't like as I was growing up. I don't like even being around her most of the time. Help me! I worry things are going to get worse.
2007-02-25 11:41:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sit her down and talk to her even if it takes hours to sort it out she should not be doing that to you she needs to be talked to soon
2007-02-25 11:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is something that all parents are going to have to go through sooner or later, so don't worry, because you definitely are not alone. She may be using her family as a vent to steam off. Is there anything happening at school that is bothering her? Maybe a boyfriend? Or a conflict with one of her friends? She may just be growing up, and since all teenagers go through this stage, you just need to stick by your rules, and be sure not to let her do anything wild or crazy (like piercing her belly button. Although a lot of people say it's alright, an infection is hell!) Although both of you will go through tough times, and there will be lots of conflicts, arguments, and little quarrels with your 13 yr old daughter, just try to understand her more, but at the same time you need to be firm about everything you say, and let her know that you are still basically the boss. Ask your friends (the ones who have teenagers, or who once did) and see what advice they can give you. Also, a lot of middle schools actually offer meetings where parents come and learn how to deal with their growing up children.
2007-02-25 19:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always had a good relationship with my mom and now I'm eighteen years old and still talks to her about everything. I think the problem that might be occuring in your situation might be that she sometimes might not understand where you're coming from. You're older and you love her so you can see things more clearly but she's your daughter so she needs to learn from you. My suggestion would be that you should try to find out why she starts to become disrespectful. As in, since when did she starts to change. Then later talk it out with her about how you feel. You're her mom after all she can't just hate you or anything. Maybe you can even try to tell you how you feel. Like it hurts your feelings when she does something. But don't force her to change it immediately because she won't understand it yet, she's just 13 afterall. But she needs to know what's right or wrong in order to be successful in society. That's my suggestion hope it helps! good luck :D
2007-02-25 19:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by laurina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most kids get this way in 6th grade, so 11 yrs old. This is the time that they start understanding the adult jokes, they make derogatory comments to people, mostly their peers. But what happens is when the kids are unhappy they become bullies. So sounds like someone is bullying her, or she is bullying someone. Ask her what is making her so unhappy, find out if there is something that you can do to change her nasty attitude. Stop it now before she gets any older with the same issues and more freedom to express the negativity in her life. Right now she needs you more than ever in her life, until she's 25. So don't allow her growing pains undo your growing relationship with her
2007-02-25 19:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a difficult child on your hands.... try reading a parenting book on how to get along with teenagers. she is probably going through some of her own issues as a young teen, but it sounds like she is pretty spoiled. set limits with her, and if she is rude or disrespectful with you, punish her. make sure your punishments aren't pathetic, though, (aka 'go to your room!') or she won't care. when she hurts your feelings, explain why doing so is wrong, but don't show that it really hurts you, or she will take advantage of you. despite all of this, make sure she truly knows that you care about her even if you have to punish her, or she will hate you. good luck. being thirteen is hard.
2007-02-25 19:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by madelinem7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 13, me and my mom get along most of the time,but I really like when we go on a mom daughter trip out of town just to get away from it all,sometimes to shop or to the lake. I like to hear storys and see places where her family grew up.And we like to talk about boys,she went out with some real dorks LOL!
2007-02-25 20:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by HIPPO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is the boss here. You definately need to straighten her out. First of all, you don't take crap from a snot nosed punk. You are the one to make sure she eats, is healthy, clean and educated. She needs to respect you more. If you don't nip this in the bud right now, she will take over. Kick her little a** and if she doesn't smarten up, the next step would be Boot Camp.
2007-02-25 19:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids know when you don't want to be around them.
And I think she's taking in the pure satisfaction of you being annoyed.
I was the same way then, from personal experience, with my mother.
And now I think about it, it was pretty stupid of me... in retrospect...
I wouldn't advise you to be indifferent with it.
Cause that would just cause her to continue whatever she is doing.
Let her realize the impact of her words.
How she wouldn't like it, if you made degrading comments or hurt her feelings...
and you command respect as much as she does
it's a two way thing.
I've grown out of it, and it took more than just myself to do it.
2007-02-25 19:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set some rules down. If she brake them like being rude ground her for like 2 hours to her room. Remove any tv, cd player, computer and if she has a phone take it. She can only have school books. Tell her next time it will be for 4 hours. If you ground her to her room don't give in. I'm 13 and a girl and that something i don't like. don't like grounded to my room and lost thing that i can do because teir removed from room
2007-02-25 19:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by sara a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a vacation with her. Maybe there is something stressing her. If things keep getting worse I suggest getting a family counselor involved.
2007-02-25 20:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by Woody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are both calm and in a good mood you need to sit down and talk with her. Tell her that she is so important to you and that you love her. Work together to make some fair rules and give her some leaway. (Spelling?) It is going to be rough for a few year. good luck
2007-02-25 19:46:30 · answer #11 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋