I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years (lived together for 3 years) last week so things has been really tough on me. We lived together in a rental house 10 mins away from my work and because of this break up, he moved out. I am now faced with choice of whether to stay in the same house by myself (and kept being reminded of him) or share house with my sisters whose house is 45 mins away from work, but have her company. What should I do?
2007-02-25 11:35:28 · 8 answers · asked by ranselbiru 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do NOT move just cos of him. I am serious. Be practical. Your house is obviously convenient, it saves you money for gas or metro and, most importantly, it saves you an hour and 10 min each day (that is more than 16 days per year!) during which you could be meeting new people! Listen, I am not trying to be mean or downgrade your sorrow, but the thing is that you will think of him any place you will be staying...and I mean any place. For example think about this: you are sitting on the sofa, watching TV...you will remember what it was like when he held you whether you are at your sister's or your house. So, it's going to be though for a while no matter what. But you know you will get through it cos there is no other option. Anyways, my advice:
Keep the place and move into your sister's place for a period of two weeks. If you are not dying to get back to your house in two weeks, give your place up and permanently move in with your sister until you are ready to move on. (I actually think that moving in with your sister for at least two weeks is a good idea as you will have a great shoulder to cry on).
Or, instead of inconveniencing yourself for no reason and having to find a new place once you can't put up with your sister anymore, why don't you just redecorate? Good luck!
2007-02-25 11:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together 4 yrs, so it's definitely gonna be harsh on you. But i'd advise you to let it all out. If you feel like crying, let it out. Burying everything inside would only make things worse, plus it's better letting the pain out bit by bit instead of all at once. It'll take a long time to get over, but that's the way it is. In the meantime, i'd say you need family more than anything during this phase, so moving in with your sister would help you heal and distract yourself. That way you can move on a lot easily. So good luck, dear.
2007-02-25 11:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Karen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this, but keep in mind that gas prices in the US are going to climb back towards $3/gallon by summer so that extra driving time is going to cost you...plus it's never wise to empose on family members when there's really no need. Just stay where you are until you find a nice apt or something close to work.
2007-02-25 11:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in the house. Redecorate and go looking for another guy to make memories with that will bury the memories of your ex, it would be a lot more practical.
2007-02-25 11:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by InvicibleStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people act like they can't be alone when they break up , but when they are together they love those few times they get the house to them selves ? Its okay to be sad but there is no reason to stop enjoying things , how sad you are is no indication of much he meant .
2007-02-25 11:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on its hard but work isnt a good reason 2 stay. look for new place of your own or move in with your sister.
2007-02-25 11:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by blackraven254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move. Don't stay b/c it's "close to work". It's over...move on.
2007-02-25 11:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by MCRFC1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let him run your life. If you like the place that you are in then stay in it.
2007-02-25 11:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by linsey_runnels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋