me and my bf moved to lousiana together a little over 3 weeks ago when we got here he proposed i said yes now he is acting weird towards me he always has an attitude when i talk to him and he gets mad easily i tell him this and he says he has not changed and im just overreacting now today we got into an argument and he told me to go back home and he will have me a plane ticket tomorrow and to mention we are living with his parents and i told him before this was going to cause stress in the relationship i love him alot and have known him my whole life we been dating for about 15 months i dont know what to do should i leave are stay and work things out he is really mad and i dont know if he is serious are is saying this out of anger but my feelings are really hurt
2007-02-25 11:21:20 · 11 answers · asked by terrificlady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds controlling, but aside from that, maybe his parents are egging him on? Or he's having pre-wedding jitters?
2007-02-25 11:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tender time for you both as moving anywhere together is stressful. You both probably have a point. He has a point because at the moment he may be all you have in Louisiana. That makes you feel a little vulnerable and sensitive. You have a point as you DO NOT deserve to be treated like trash. The only thing which is concerining about your question is that the change in behaviuor happened after he propsed. Does he think he now owns you? If he does then get out now!!! Seriously get out because if you get married things will either be as they are or maybe worsen. Don't mean to alarm you but Ihave been down this track and it led to physical abuse often, as it became a pattern of behaviour for both of us. Next time he speaks to you like a jerk tell him how he makes you feel - don't cry. What does he parents think about the way he treats you?
2007-02-25 11:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all you can do is try to get him to go somewhere away from the house where you live and have a long talk. Try to work things out with him, but if he won't listen then all you can do is take the trip home and wait for him to realize that he made a mistake. Then if he doesn't try to make up after a few months then you know it wasn't really meant to be. You're just too different.
2007-02-25 11:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please go home
If he is man enough to ask you to marry him he should be on his own either way not living with his parents
Take the ticket as a gift and go home he is not the only man in this world
if there is no ticket call your parents go home if you cant go to a women's shelter they will help you get back home
you are important an you need a clear head
please take care of yourself :)
2007-02-25 11:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship. Go home and find someone else. A relationship won't work when you live with parents. He might come around if yougo home. If it is ment to work he will come back.
2007-02-25 11:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by wendybartram2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him if he really wants you to leave if he does then go back home i know it hurts but you will be ok you should find out why he is so mad.
2007-02-25 11:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
till now each and every act say " Bismillaah hir rahman nir raheem " Soor-e-sense is small and intensely helpful if u like yet as according to my experience of understanding our great pupils and the Researchers maximum of them are utilising Ayats and Soora the place Allah exhibits the happiness. Like a million. Soor-e-Qadr 2. Soor-e-Kausar etc
2016-10-01 23:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by carlstrom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be stressed. try taking some time away from each other maybe u both could us a break to think. then try going on a trip together and remake so of the old flame.
2007-02-25 11:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by blackraven254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear that. It could be a number of things; I don't know your fiance so I'm merely giving you my opinion.
change of heart? meeting someone new.
pressure from parents?
stress?
You know him best. I cannot recommend anything. Search your heart, you know the answer.
Take care sweetie!
2007-02-25 11:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little immature to me or he is just confused. If you really want to be with him then you need to get him to talk to you somehow. And if he really wants to be with you then he will want to talk to you. If he keeps getting mad at you for no reason then he don't deserve you.
2007-02-25 11:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by linsey_runnels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋