my sister is in the navy and has been there for about less than 8 months and she doesn't like it...she calls me everyday cry that she wants out...but I don't know what to do...or say...she has gotten to the point that she tells me she will kill herself to be out...so can some one help...can I got her out....or can she got out...if so how....HELP.....
2007-02-25 11:08:45 · 15 answers · asked by spider_chick_01 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Try this link, there are ways, but it will take effort, and/or courage.
However, if shes that desperate...
http://www.objector.org/girights/military-discharges.html
Its not uncommon to find out to late you're not made for life in the military.Its totally different than what one imagines it to be like before enlisting.
2007-02-25 11:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think the idea of care packages works wonders. But don't send just stuff to her, send stuff for her immediate crewmembers/friends.
See if she is making any friends with her coworkers. Make sure you become a channel for them as well, this would help them bond with her more effectively.
If you're not too financially well off, that's ok, Just some candies or something can help and your local parish or recruitment center may be able to offer suggestions on what to do to help with costs.
Keep in contact with her and see about some of her old friends, and see if they could write a little bit or contact her via either e-mail or some other way.
Ask her to see the medical doctor and see what she can do about the stress , if she's in a combat situation (as a medic or something) that's an entirely different matter than if she's serving aboard a carrier group since while there are dangers aboard ship, it is not the same as a live-fire combat situation.
My brother was in a group in the Marine Corps and basically we found that the USMC is alot like kindergarden in one very important respect, If you didn't bring enough to share with everyone ....well.... there could be problems. So remember, you aren't taking care of just your daughter, it's also some of her adopted brothers and sisters as well.
In the end the military families should try to be there for one another.
2007-02-25 11:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mark T 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As "hunterent" suggested, letting her commanding officer know may be the only way to go. (Apparently she made a rash decision and has since lived to regret it.) If you can contact someone in the higher eschelons ask what the options are for her. It may not be easy, but there should be a way out. One possibility is dishonorable discharge. That will leave a permanent mark on her record, but at least she'll be out (though she won't be able to rejoin).
2007-02-25 11:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Charles d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get in touch with her Chain of command IMMDIATELY, if you are having problems with this, call the RED CROSS, or call any NAVY station and give them the info.
With a situation like this you need to act NOW !!! I mean don't even read this and call someone tonight!
The Military does not take the signs of suicide lightly, they will act on it immediately and get your sister help,but you must act now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-25 11:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by bodb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
rather then focus on her getting out, which out would be really tough try focusing on something positive for her. i have many friends and a brother-in-law there so i understand. send her care packages. some ideas include making a video cd or dvd of your family and friends saying hi. pack some cool games (cards, dice or something else small), some of fave candy, make her a music cd of her fave music. maybe the younger family members can draw or paint some pics for her. try to bring home to her since she is far away. oftentimes, if you belong to a church you can get them to help and pray for her. good luck.
2007-02-25 11:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by mo b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did she join then. She has to do her enlistment contract to be able to get out Honorably, or she can get medically discharged. She has only been in for 8 months of course its going to suck it is a big life change to go in the military.
2007-02-25 11:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
definatley call her chaplin or commanding officer and tell them of her suicide threats - they can and sometimes do discharge on mental status, and they tend to be a general discharge, not a dishonorable one- they wont let her back in but not everyone can handle life in the military...
sometimes telling someone to suck it up just doesnt work - people who are just homesick tend to go on whining about wanting leave to come visit or missing talking to people or such... they dont typically talk about suicide. that smacks of depression and we dont need depressed people in the military with access to weapons...
2007-02-25 20:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by unimatrix_42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is in - under a contract ( mostly sure )
ADVISE HER to go with the Fxxxx Flow - and take it easy.
Our Fxxx Military does not care about hers feeelings - she is under contract - and becuse its so - there is litte she can do as today - ( if she leaves - then she will face military court and be in Fuxxx jail for years ) So best thing is help her with family support and ask her to go with whatever they ask her to do -
her life is most important - than a Fxxx orders from those militars - So tel her to - take it easy and LIVE ONE DAY AT THE TIME - until that Fxxx contract is over - SO SHE Can start a better life -
2007-02-25 11:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by fidel castro 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
suck it up, just tell her to bit her lip and give it hell. she is in the most comfortable of the services. if she is on a boat she has a nice bed, food, labtop, come on its a frigin vacation! the marines and army have to live in the dirt and sand and fight for a living. (excluding navy seals ofcourse those guys live in hell, and enjoy it!)
2007-02-25 11:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister is in deep sh!t. Is there any way that you can get her to grow up and just do her job? After all, it's only the Navy, even SEALS don't cry (in public). Tell her to suck it up.
2007-02-25 11:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋