Clearly..My girlfriend/ex girlfriend been at it for about almost a year. She and I met while she was in Minnesota, now.. shes moved to Arkansas, its been a while now. I'm so stressed out, we cheat on eachother and then we quit. I've quit doing it, i finally gave up and said, "I'm done playing games." Now im serious, and shes in college, having sex with women, plus who knows how many STD's are out there. We had a fight today and said we shouldn't be together anymore, i feel like everytime i say something wrong, the whole relationship goes down. But everytime she does something wrong, i give in and i say its okay. I do everything for this girl, i send her money, i buy her things, i listen to her when she has problems, but it seems that i do not see what she does for me. I know in my situation, she doesn't want to be with me anymore, i try to talk to her, but everytime i do she just calls me names, and just ignores my calls. Shes evil to me. what should i do to get over this break up?
2007-02-25 11:08:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance relationships are tough, no doubt about it. But, with the right people and enough care, *work*, and devotion...it can work out. But...it doesn't sound like that's the case for you two. In my off/on relationships, and I've had a few, I've always found that my friends are the best way to get over my ex. Make sure you have someone, OTHER than her, to talk to about it. Some one you care about and who you know cares about you...and who's a good *listener.* I'm betting what you need is to talk it out. Often enough, if a person has a good listener to bounce things off of, she can figure things out on her own.
Also...and this is probably the very most important....*cut her off.* Do NOT send your ex any more money, take any more of her phone calls, or call her for that matter. She had your chance with you and she screwed it up. She screwed you over. You have to accept that what you had is over, and you won't have her again. But, in order to get over a poisonous situation like this, I *promise* you that you have to cut her out of your life. Block her number on your phone, her ID on your instant messenger, her address from your email...whatever it takes. When you feel the urge to call her, or if she calls you....call a *good* friend. Or heck...go get some chocolate. (You can burn it off once you get a new girlfriend =) )
Or...get a new hobby, read a favorite book or watch a good movie...put on some loud music and bang your head....whatever your style is. You know best how to comfort yourself (other than trying to get in touch with the ex).
Anyways...I'm sorry your relationship went so sour...but you will get over it a thousand times faster if you just cut her off, and you will be so much better and so much stronger once you do.
Hope it works out.
Oh..and I don't know if you like any country music, but Travis Tritt's "It's a Great Day to Be Alive" is a great song for getting over a break-up. Or, find your own song that makes you happy when you're sad.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 11:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Katy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure it's clear that you two are broken up. Tell her you don't want to be in contact right now, because otherwise you're not getting over this fast.
It really takes time to get over a breakup. They say it takes 1/2 the length of the relationship to really get over, which I found is true for me, at least.
As for you, get involved in something new and meet new people. Don't try to get in a new relationship right now. And remember her bad qualities so that you don't get tempted to go back.
2007-02-25 11:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what type of relationship one engages in, it should be one that produces mutual joy. If your not happy in this relationship you should try to resolve it or end it. It is obvious by her actions that she no longer wants to be in the relationship so I think you should just let it go and move on. Date other people, go out and enjoy life...it's too short for this drama!
2007-02-25 11:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just leave it alone you will find a relationship you may need just to take a break be nice to yourself
Get strong you will find someone who loves you for you
Have a good week and I know it is hard but you are worth it
2007-02-25 11:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the college has been very stupid from the commencing up and blew up a concern that could have been unquestionably resolved. they're attempting to make this a debate approximately morals rather of tolerance and the regulation. I cant stand it while somebody tries to shove their very own morals down each physique else's throat.
2016-09-29 22:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop calling her and move on. Try going back to men woman are too hormonal.
2007-02-25 11:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i where you id move on n try to find urself a new girl! one that actually cares to be in a relationship wit you! good luck girl
2007-02-25 11:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by bita-b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn straight, gold dig on some guy, then send pictures and stories of how awesome your life is to your ex
2007-02-25 11:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jake N 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do urself a favour and GET OUT!...dont stay there and make her feel like she can fall back on you anytime she pleases...ur putting ur life on hold for her...she knows it and she LOVES to abuse...so please stop hoping, give up on this relationship...its not meant to be...and find urself a nice girl who will treat u right...u deserve that. good luck =]
2007-02-25 11:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a chick flix and ice cream never fail. but if you were both cheating to me once some one cheats then its over right then and there. if u really have a relationship then theres no one else u would rather be with no matter wut the distance.
2007-02-25 11:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by blackraven254 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋