I have a 17 year-old niece who 'hates' her mother. As her uncle, I have been the only father figure she has known and she confides in me everytime she has an issue to discuss. She has a sister who is 6 years younger that her and she gets all the attention from her mother. The 17 year-old often argues with her mother about everything and it is easy to tell that she picks fights with her mother to get the only attention she can. Needless to say, she hates her younger sister who uses her mother as a weapon by snitching on big sister just to get her in trouble.
All of this I would deem as normal. However, my niece has confided in me of her experimentation with boys, marijuana, cheating on tests, and alcohol. I have talked to her about all of these issues and she seems to listen to me and I am quite sure that they are young childish mistakes. But my question is, am wrong in not telling her mother (my sister)?
2007-02-25 11:07:37 · 4 answers · asked by fenway2k 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a very sticky situation. I would sit down and have a talk with her mother, and tell her that her oldest daughter needs some special attention from her at this time in her life. She's on her way to becoming and adult and right now she really needs her Mom. I wouldn't outright tell her about the boys, drugs, cheating on tests, and alcohol, but I would hint around about the trouble that a young lady can get into when they are looking for attention.
2007-02-25 11:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well ur wrong and ur right ur wrong cuz it could get worse and the gurl might slip away and u wont nottice it happening then youll end up feeling bad and itlll all come down 2 u plus no1 is closer 2 her then her mother now the right part is that ur the 1 thats there 4 her try spending tym wit her try taking the younger 1 away from her mom and let the mom and the 17 yo hang ouit more also i suggest that u tell her mom but u have to say it the right way 4 example when u enter a home u got windows and a door u dont come in crashing from the windows u enter from the door the right way w/o hurting any1 or anything same situation here i think u should take the mom on a drive and let her kno it w/o the kids being by her and w/o her being by the kids and i dont mean u bring her over i mean u drive her away and yu bring her bak cuz then she wouldnt leave and do sumin 2 the gurl plus shes sopposed to think like a mom shes supposed to kno how to handle these types of situations so do as i said then on the way bak shelll have tym 2 think about it gd luck hope it helps ;)
2007-02-25 19:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by idkjustanothergurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe the mother should know about these problems. It could be that if she knew, she would be more inclined to pay attention to her. Right now she probably thinks that she is just acting like a teen and doesn't realize the seriousness of what is going on.
You could sit your sister down over coffee and have a heart to heart starting with "do you know why she is acting out like this?" Hopefully she will take the bait and take you seriously from that point.
If your niece is acting out in trying to get her mother's attention, then she should get her mother's attention. Your sister can't possibly know how to reciprocate without all the facts! God bless you for being there for your niece :)
2007-02-25 20:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my god you are my hero some would call you a father every girl would want to have i dont think you should tell her mother until it gets serious and just be there for her!
2007-02-25 19:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋