My boyfriend is really shy we've been going out for almost three weeks and we haven't even hugged. What do I do? And I AM NOT gonna make the first move! Help me!!!
2007-02-25 10:59:32 · 30 answers · asked by abbygale ♫ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you cant make the first move your gna have to tell him! Say it in jokey way so you don't embarass him or you. 'Do you know we've been together 3 weeks and you've never hugged me? Do I smell...im starting to worry':p If you do decide to make the first move, good on you! He's not going to back off or reject you or he wouldn't be with you in the first place!xx
2007-02-25 11:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by Londonbaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woah! I can feel you anger, I actually had this same problem except it was only for about a couple of weeks. You say you're not gonna make the first move but that's exactly how your bf is thinking 9 times outta 10. If he's a respectful fella, I can bet you he's trying to respect your space. You've gotta let him know it's okay... but DONT tell him, give him a hug and look into his eyes....then give him a peck on the cheek--or lips--whatever you prefer. Then he'll realize it's safe to proceed but with caution. If it's a lot worse than that, then you guys need to talk, I mean really, what's a relationship without communication eh? Good luck girl!
2007-02-25 11:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by cocopinkpantha08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you just said you aren't going to make the first move, but I think it may be your only chance. I mean not to sound rude, but if you have been going out for three weeks and you haven't even hugged, then something must be done. At the end of your date, just kind of gesture tworads a hug, and he will most likley follow along.
2007-02-25 11:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by You Are My Sunshine<333 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well, since you don't want to make the first move, have you considered talking to him about it? Maybe when you're parting ways after a date, you could tell him coyly that you'd really like to be hugged. Or just pretend to be sad and go up to him and tell him you need a hug. Just give him a little push, because I'm sure he wants to hug you just as much as you want to hug him.
2007-02-25 11:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he hasnt even tried to do anything to show his feelings toward you either he is really shy or he just isnt into you but maybe he just doesnt know whether or not you are comfortable with it you dont have to make the first move but maybe when you say goodbye dont leave right away look at him a little longer and hopefully he will get the hint that you want him to do something
2007-02-25 11:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by craniumlucky13 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax. It will happen....so what if you have to make the first move...I did on my first date with my bf and we have been together for 3 years. I am not saying that you two will hug and be together forever but I am also not telling you that you two will break up. If you two like each other then just relax and let things be. Things happen when they happen and you can't force them because that would be even more awkward. Being confident and forward with your feelings and expressing them will make him like you even more than he does now.
2007-02-25 11:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_me19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is intimidated by your experience. Maybe he feels that you know more than him and he's not sure what to do. I like playful sex too. You have to get him to lighten up. Sex should not be a tense thing. Try having a engaging conversation before you want to have sex. Something that gets him excited. Get him to be involved. While he's talking sit on his lap, play with his hair, have him rub your feet, tickle him. Let it naturally roll into an intimate moment. As you're kissing his ear lope whisper, "you don't have to be shy with me." Look into his eyes and talk about something that turns you on. Have him take turns with you. exchanging thoughts.
2016-03-29 00:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are too young. In most relationships, hugging or more is how boyfriends/girlfriends are made. also, your comment about making the first move also leads me to believe you are both very young. this generally is insignificant to most people (as the "first move" is what started the relationship) and only young people think it is a big deal who does it first.
so, to answer your question: you aren't ready for hugging so don't expect it or wait for it.
2007-02-25 11:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it his job to make the first move. Maybe he is thinking the same thing about you. Hug the guy if you want. This "I'm not gonna make the first move" is retarded.
2007-02-25 11:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by allindotcom@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable making a move and he's not comfortable making a move, this is going nowhere. Dating isn't dating unless you're a little physical (like hugging and kissing and hand-holding).
You could talk to him about it as a last resort.
2007-02-25 11:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋