Some people tell me I am average looking, but I consider myself unattractive.
2007-02-25 10:51:31 · 21 answers · asked by Notworththeonestar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the problem you describe and solved it precisely the way you're thinking about solving it. And I am profoundly embarrassed about it.
I actually consider my second time to be my first ... with someone I cared about, and with someone who cared about me.
2007-02-25 10:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by JohnD 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well coming from someone who was once in your shoes - don't do it! My girlfriend is on this site and she was browsing through these questions and saw yours and thought that I would be the perfect person to answer your question. Iam a 25 year old guy who just lost my virginity. Trust me it could get extremely difficult and depressing at times when it seems like everyone around you is having sex and you're not. Iam so glad I waited because this girl turned out to be perfect for me. Sex can cause lots of drama and STD's. If you're looking for a sex life then look for a serious relationship w/ someone because from what I hear sex is so much better when you're w/ the one you truly love. You don't want to have sex just to have sex. Get my point?? If you have a hard time finding someone try online dating. If you think you are to unattractive then try to get yourself in shape cause when you are confident about the way you look the opposite sex can sense this. And if all else fails, try porn, lol. Well good luck and be careful! Justin- age 25
2007-02-25 19:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go to the prostitute dude. I'm a 25 year old virgin and there is no way in hell that I would even want to lose my virginity to someone that has probably screwed 10+ guys in the same day. First, change your attitude about yourself. If those people are your friends and they aren't saying that you are unattractive, then I would listen to them. The first thing a women looks for is confidence in yourself. Get that and the women will be flocking to you.
2007-02-25 18:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by docketclerkguy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is great that you are facing this issue and not just keeping it to yourself. But, my personal opinion is to do the ideal thing and not hire a prostitute.
Being more virginal and innocent is normally more attractive to women. Cleanliness, purity, self-control and other godly virtues are attractive to women.
Ideally, you should go for a girl that is very good intelligent. Go to her family and let them know that you are going to take good care of her. Spend time at the library reading up on these things. Go to counselors. Spiritual counselors are best, but go to some kind of counselors is better than none. It does not have to be professional counselor. Learn why marriage is sacred and that there should be no sex outside of marriage.
If you cannot do that and have to try out loose women, then consider this. Most of these loose women do not know how to have safe, clean, healthy sex. They do not know how to keep from transmitting disease. Did you know that the incubation period for HIV can be as much as two years? So even if a loose woman has checked herself for AIDs in the past few months she may still have the disease! And you can catch HIV through the mouth. A prostitute might have bleeding gums!
Normally prostitution is illegal. She may involve you in homosexual swinger relations since she may have other men she has sex with. Or some other boyfriend she has could pick a fight with you. She may blackmail you for money.
Of course, some of these loose women are very sharp. They can really fool you. They can really intrigue you. But, this could very well be a trap. If you have to go after a woman like this then proceed with the most extreme caution. If she lies to you and goes away, then let her go! You don't want to go after her and possibly getting emotionally involved.
Many of these loose women are addicted to drugs. You don't want drug addiction! It may very well be that the only hope for getting these women off of drugs is to get some kind of institutionalization for as many years as it takes to be absolutely certain they will never go back to drugs again.
And do these loose women know what real love is? They can go through the motions of sex, but they probably do not know what real love is. You may try to give them your love, but what kind of gratitude can they show? After going through the motions of sex the glamor or the love is gone and then we are feeling like no better than some kind of animal or dog.
2007-02-26 01:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, dont go around "looking" for sex. You're not a virgin because you consider yourself "unattractive" but because of your own personal decision, live with it! Dont even bother with a prostitue, chances are she's had over 200 sexual partners if she's one of the "experienced" ones. That would mean that you're having sex with her, those 200+ people she's had, their sexual, partners and on an on. Find you a nice girl who likes AND ACCEPTS you for you, maybe if she likes you enough, and you want to, yall can do the do! Good luck, bud!
2007-02-25 19:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by cocopinkpantha08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good looking, ugly, whatever! You should have at least banged a drunk chick by now! Get out of the house dude! Because you haven't been focusing on pus**. you probabaly went to school and have a good job, right? Now, go buy a plane ticket to Vegas, then find a decent room. Look in the local phone book for escort services, call one. It will cost you $300, but it's worth it!
2007-02-25 19:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a virgin because of the way you look, you're a virgin because of who you are. Be proud of it, why is everyone so tensed up about virginity. You will find the gold at the end of the rainbow in a relationship if you just be patient until the right lady comes along that you want to give "ALL" of yourself to.
Hang in there and congratulations, you're 1 in a million people on earth. That's pretty unique odds.
2007-02-25 18:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by inkinheaven 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Continue being a virgin until you find someone you love and want to be with. If you have sex with a prositiute you could wind up with something you weren't prepared for. Protection only protects you from getting someone pregnant and even that sometimes fails....just be patient and wait. And don't be so hard on yourself about your looks. You need to be more confident.
2007-02-25 19:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by mrs_me19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's ok I was 18 when i lost it and my boyfreind had just turned twenty and my freind is 23 and she is still a virgin anf my brother was 23 when it lost it we all loose it at different times. Don't worry it'll come when it will come ya it you don;t worry about it too much. don;t worry it will happen soon. I think it is better to wait cause then you met that special person
2007-03-05 17:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kelsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought about that when I was 21, but it is so risky. You don't know what diseases she has, if she carries a weapon and is out to rob you, the cops might catch ya, what if someone you know finds out you solicited a prostitute, pretty dam embarrasing!
Saying all that you probally would risk very little doing it only once with a hooker.
2007-02-25 19:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋