Ive heard that a couple shud be engaged for at least 6 months before they get married....? Ok, i suppose it's a superstition, but still...what do u think? If, say, im engaged for less than that, some bad luck might happen 2 me?
2007-02-25 10:51:15 · 22 answers · asked by senorita spanish rose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i dont think it matters how long you are engaged per se. Its more important to wait before getting married, make sure you know the person well. Engagement is merely a social construct, it is not legally or spiritually binding, so even if you were engaged for ONE day i would suggest that you have known your partner a long time, in and out before getting married
2007-02-25 12:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a superstition, really...It's just the way it usually works.
1. For starters, the bride usually likes to show off her engagement ring for a good bit before adding the wedding ring.
2. As Daniella said, it does take a *long* time to plan most weddings. Because it is such an important and long-dreamed of event for most brides-to-be, they want everything to be as perfect as possible. It usually takes longer than even 6 months to coordinate everything from flowers to flower girls, traveling plans for the family that might live out-of-state, the music and food, not to *mention* the chaos that is the guest list. And, if you want to get married some where in particular, for the nicer places you may have to book the day over a year in advance.
3. The engagement is also a "transition" stage. When you're engaged, you'll likely be spending a lot more time together, meeting each other's families (if you haven't already), making wedding plans, etc. It's a chance for couples to make sure they're darn good and ready to actually get married...or, in some cases...to find out that it would have been a huge mistake. In some religions, you even have to pass a class/counseling session before you can get married in the church.
Or...if you're not ready to get married, but know you want to in the future, a longer engagement gives you that chance to prepare for marriage.
But...if you end up with a super long engagement, anything over 2.5 years (disregarding special circumstances like a term in Irag or finishing college, etc.) it might be a sign that you shouldn't be getting married.
Anyways...to conclude, no, it's not "bad luck" to have a short engagement...but it might be bad planning.
2007-02-25 11:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Katy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a question of bad luck. Its not a superstition that I have heard of. I think its more a question of not rushing into anything. There are probably a few reasons the at least 6 month engagement. One, you will need At Least that much time to plan a wedding if you are having the whole wedding and reception thing. Also, it gives you time to discuss things and reflect and make sure that this is the right path for you. It also gives you time to make plans for what you are going to do after the wedding - i.e. living arrangements (if you don't already live together), financial matters (do you keep separate accounts, have a joint account, or both), talk about the possibility of family if you haven't already, things like that. My husband and I were engaged after 4 months of dating, but we had a 13 month engagement. We needed every bit of it to plan our wedding. We didn't have a huge of a wedding, just 85 or so guests, but it still takes time.
2007-02-25 12:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never heard that one about having to be 6 months engaged, certainly not a superstition where I come from. You can be engaged as short or as long as you wish. There are always dresses in the shops that can be bought 'off the peg', invitations to hand write etc. Even the shops that tell you it will be say 5 months for your dress to come in can put through a rushed order, certainly you may have to pay a charge. Main thing would be to check how long you have to reside in a particular place before you can marry as it varies from country to country. Saying all that if you are really wanting to plan your wedding and attempt to get everything just right even 6 months could be cutting it neat, probably 9 months to a year more like it. Another point is for weekend days often churches, venues, bands etc are booked 2 - 3 years in advance. Best wishes for the future.
2007-02-25 11:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of that, but it usually takes that long to plan a wedding. Time frames depend on the couple, nobody can dictate what is right for you. Some people don't know each other long before they get engaged, others many years. Same with engagements. Don't fret over some wives-tale, just do what makes the two of you happy. Congrats
2007-02-25 11:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of my went out with this guy for about 2 1/2 years, and they were engaged in November and getting married in June. So 6 months sounds good to me ;)
2007-02-25 11:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by C L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that time line was devised because in ye days of old couples got engaged usually after knowing eachother just a couple of months. You know way back when people didn't have sex before they were married? So a six month engagement supposedly made the couple get over those first lustful desires and get to know eachother knowing that the other would come in time. So they wouldn't just get married to have sex! Then discover that there's a lot more to making a marriage than sexual desire.
2007-02-25 11:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that you know your partner inside out it does not matter how long you are engaged for, you can be engaged for years and years and still have an unhappy marriage. Go by your instinct if it feels right go for it nothing will happen to you just because you have had a short engagement. Good luck to you and do not worry about it any more, be happy.
2007-02-25 11:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were engaged in September, getting married in 3 weeks. We were going to do a December wedding but wasn't sure when his mother would have to be out of town for her job (no way to work around that for her, it's mandatory). Anyway, I had my wedding planned by December anyway, I could have done it then. March was just the first month after that we liked for our wedding. Nothing bad will happen if you get married before 6 months of engagment.
2007-02-25 10:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents were engaged for two weeks and only saw each other 2 times in that span, once on their first date (a blind date) and he asked on her dorrstep at the end of their date, he left the next morning to go back to the the base and the 2nd time they saw each other she was walking down the aisle. They will celebrate 43 years in March. No such thing as an appropriate time frame to be engaged.
2007-02-25 11:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋