my girlfriend took and oath and now I'm thinkin of cheatin?

Question

ok soo me and my girl have been datin 4 a year and i lost my virginty to and we had sex like only 5 times and i luv it then she says no sex till marrige just like that no 2 week notice no nothin just cuts it and i was at first but its been month and my dick is goin crazy im soo ****** horny its crazy and im seein girls and they look so sexy..so now im thinkin i might cheat.? and i knw wat ur thinkin if u loved u wouldnt be thinkin that ? right 4 real i do i wanna marry her but i got needs i askin wat can i do 2 plz myself without cheatin or is ok to cheat and dont say jack off cuz that dont work 4 me

o and i lost mine to her not the other way around she got me hooked and cut me off
and why take it if ur gonna the marrige card anyway

Answer 1

OK darling...First lemme say that cheating is never the right answer and is, in my opinion, only justifiable under certain conditions which you haven't met yet. Second, I think that you are doing the right thing by actually taking time to THINK before you do anything stupid. I really appreciate that cos most guys just go for it and think later (and are usually sorry). So, since you haven't done anything wrong yet, I think your soul might still be saved! :) OK...listen, you have to talk to her first before you do something. If you really love her, then you should be able to talk to her about this. Ask her about her decision, but don't pressure her or give her the guilt trip. This is the only way you will find out why she made that decision and there can only be three reasons (two more plausible than the third) for it:
First, she might not be enjoying sex as much as she expected and is too embarrassed to tell you about it (cos it might be you that is doing something wrong-and especially if you are both new to the sex thing and she is still hurting-as you probably know girls don't start enjoying sex until like the 10th time at least). So you have to talk about it!
Second, she might be getting it somewhere else, in which case you don't have to worry about cheating cos you can just leave her ***.
Third, she might have "found God" and she wants to be the good girl until you get married in which case. NO it is not OK to cheat on her cos she doesn't deserve it.

So, the only way you can cheat on her is:
Once you have talked to her, she still won't reveal the true reason for not wanting to have sex or will insist on not having it, while at the same time you have decided that you must absolutely have sex at the cost of your relationship, then you say to her: "We are having a relationship and I really like you. Furthermore, as a human being I have needs and since you are my partner, you are responsible to fulfill them just as I am responsible to fulfill yours. But, since you do not wish to fulfill certain needs that I have, I will have to get someone else to fulfill them!" (OK use this only in extreme situation since it will probably end your relationship...but you should understand and make her understand that honesty is the most important part of any relationship)

So, in short: It is not OK to cheat under any circumstances. If you feel someone else would better fulfill ALL you needs, then leave her. Or you can just tell her that you intend to cheat at which point she will leave you. Listen, I know how it is when you are not getting what you want, when you want it, especially when you are supposed to be getting it. But, believe me, sooner or later, the cheating and the lies will catch up with you and it will cause her more pain than you can imagine (you shouldn't be putting her through it if you really love her). It is up to you; decide whether it is worth it (staying with her and holding out, leaving her and getting sex, or cheating on her and scarring her for life where she won't be able to trust another man for a very, very loooooooooooooong time). Either way, the choice is yours, but once you make it, you have to live with it. Good luck!

Answer 2

actual, no! Having your tongue pierced is extra intense than an ear! it ought to get very swollen, and because that's on your mouth and completely moist, it could take 2 years to heal! April would look extremely some distance away, whether it's going to quickly pass, and that's lots extra effective to earn your mum's admire and save her have confidence than finally end up in hassle, for the sake of a few months! besides, what's to assert that come April you will nonetheless prefer it completed? you would be able to % you want a distinctive piercing by skill of then?! it might look recommend that your mum is making you wait, yet no respected place will pierce tongues on every person under sixteen, and a few not even under 18! yet another subject to think of roughly, is once you are the kind of guy or woman that gets pushed mad by skill of something on your mouth, including a niche? if so, a stud will tension you insane! good good fortune with this!

Answer 3

She's letting you know in a round a bout way that she's not going to just let you lay with her as though you're married. Of course it's easy to say you intend to marry her...get constant sex from her and the day of marriage never comes. If you really loved her you wouldn't be focused just on your body's hormones. Think about the feelings of the lady you say you're going to marry. A lot of women have given in to men with needs and have gotten nothing in return but a baby's daddy that isn't taking care of their child or children. I'm not saying you're that type of fellow...but the truth is that men say all types of things including marriage just to get laid. Whether you cheat or not is entirely up to you...but if you decide to cheat ask yourself if you really love her. Control those hormones and stay in control and don't let your male organs control you.

Answer 4

It's okay for a girl to leave her virginity for marriage or even to stop having sex until marriage. But if you want a sexual relationship with her, you have the choice to break up with her, because you won't be having it.

I don't know how old you are, but if you're out of your teens and old enough to marry, she may either be pressuring you to marry or want to break up.

No matter what situation, if you want sex from now on, you better be willing to let her go and get it with someone else.

Answer 5

I don't understand what it is with some of you guys. You won't die if you go without sex for a while, but if you're willing to lose a wonderful person because of sex then break up with her and find someone to fulfill your desire. Cheating will only hurt her and make you look pathetic.

Answer 6

How could you even think of doing that to someone you claim to love and wish to marry! She really loves you and wants your relationship to mean more than just having sex. Can't you see that? You need to talk about this with her, let her know how you feel-maybe then she'll see what a big hunk of s*** you are-grow up, it's clear to me that a boy who feels as you do is not ready for a real relationship!

Answer 7

listen here pal you go to the news stand grab any magazine with naked women on the cover.Go home go straight to your room and you choke the hell out of that chicken of yours.
To be real the few second of pleasure is not worth ruining a good relationship. If you are still so primitive and cant control yourself break up with that young lady because you are not worthy to have her.

Answer 8

Ok, let me see if I get this...you and your current girlfriend have had sex but now she says she wants to wait until marriage? Is that right? Tell her she's a little messed up. Once she's had sex she's not longer a virgin, so what the hell is she waiting until marriage for?

Answer 9

u really need to talk to her about this , seriously tell her everything thats going on in that little head of yours , now it might hurt but it will hurt her even more if you actually cheat -- there are other things you can do with her or did she cut you off entirely --- (lmfao)

Answer 10

Talk to her! See what she can do for you! Let her know the sexual frustration you are having. But try your hardest to prevent cheating! Love doesn't cheat! It finds other ways!