Hello all. I have been seeing this lady for a while. I have, like a fool, fallen hopelessly in love with her. She has recently ended a pretty bad marriage and has told me that she is interested in a short term relationship only. She treats me pretty badly. She is a busy single mother. Sometimes she has lots of time to see me. Other times she is too "busy" but has time to see other people - friends in fairness as opposed to other lovers. On the other hand when we are together it is pretty awesome - we have great fun together - and when she kisses me it is absolutely incredible. I would marry her tomorrow and would like to build a life with her. I know it is not what she wants. I still hang on like a fool waiting for her phonecalls etc. I know I should give her up but i just cant seem to do it. Im thinking of telling her how i feel - asking her to marry me - at least then when she rejects me - I will be able to move on. Would appreciate advice. Soon to be heartbroken. P.
2007-02-25 10:45:17 · 6 answers · asked by Pa J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should express to her your love for her and then ask her to marry u....i say u ask her to marry u at least u wont live ur whole life wondering if u asked her if she wud say yes or if she would say no.....i cannot say how to give it up becuz if ma bf left me i wud die i love him too much to think about him leaving.
2007-02-25 10:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you said she ended a bad marriage recently, bingo!
She's not ready & when she treats you badly, it's b/c she's scared & is trying to run you away.
I got an idea. Be her friend, really that's all. As hard as it may be let a couple of days pass before you call. Make her wonder what you are doing. To take it a step further, without playing games, date some other women. She just might get jealous, realize she loves you also. Oh course you need to be very smooth & consistent with this. She needs time & if she's to decide you are the one she'll need time & space to figure that out.
Good Luck
2007-02-25 18:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something confuses me. If she treats you so badly then why do you stay with her? You deserve to be treated like a human being that has emotions and feelings and a heart, not someone who's lower then dirt. You deserve better for yourself. Okay, so she's a great kisser and you have fun around her, but is it really worth all that just so she can keep beating you down? Have you ever thought that because she just got done with a bad marriage, maybe she's feeling a little hatefull towards men, right now?
If it were me, I'd find something to hate about her and I'd let that push me away from her. I dont like to let people in and I like it even less when I do let them in and they treat me badly. But its not me in this situation, Its you. Good luck.
2007-02-25 18:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept this relationship on her terms right now. Let her get over hte bad marriage. Single moms are busy people. Her children are the most important thing in the world to her. They need her now more than ever. Lighten up, continue to see her and you might be surprised how this all turns out.
2007-02-25 18:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:( sorry about all this.
The only thing I can suggest is move on now, dnt ask her to marry you. She wont change and you deserve someone that makes you feel like that, but treats you nicely back 2. and i promise there's someone like that for you.
Good luck, if you do decide to move on, just keep busy so you think of her less. :( sorry you're feeling this way!
2007-02-25 18:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's review the facts: she treats you badly, doesn't spend time with you and said she only wants a short-term relationship.
Do NOT ask to marry this woman, even if you don't mean it.
The only way to heal your heart is with time. While you wait, I recommend cutting off communication and making some new friends in a club or other activity to get your mind off her.
2007-02-25 18:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋