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He is also throwing things and hitting myself n his dad has anyone been through the same thing.

2007-02-25 10:21:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

18 answers

Thank god I am not the only parent that is going through that. I have a 3 yr old boy who is the same way, or was.. He went through that stage and I thought I was going to lose my mind. I took him to the doctor and they wanted to say he had ADHD and I refused to believe it. I think it is just simply that, a stage! So I didn't put him on any meds and slowly he is coming out of that naughty stage that drive us all crazy. So be patient and try your best to relax, and I know how hard that can be at times but it will all work out. Feel free to email me anytime if you want someone to talk to.

2007-02-25 12:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Vicki B 2 · 1 0

I have raised 4 children. My oldest received a scholorship to Texas A&M and has been accepted into medical school, my 17 year old boy is an honor student in 11th grade, plays on the varsity baseball team and scored in the top 10% on his SAT's this year. My 14 year old daughter is also an honor student, and my 8 year old daughter is constantly being praised by her 2nd grade teacher. None of my children have had problems with drugs/alcohol, or the law, and I am almost positive my 2 oldest are still virgins. Our secret to success was DISCIPLINE. When our children were young they we told ONCE, maybe TWICE to stop bad behavior. If it continued after that, they were spanked. And I don't mean I light tap on the butt, I mean a good hard spanking. Sometimes on a daily basis if required. After the age of 5 or 6 it was not required, because they knew what to expect if they disobeyed. You cannot reason with a 3 year old. Sorry to say the only type of discipline they understand is what I just explained. My wife and I are constantly praised by people saying how wonderful our children are and how well behaved. Your child needs to be disciplined in this way. I know that the new generation frowns on this type of discipline, and that is the exact reason why there are so many severe problems with todays younger generation, they lack dicipline. Waiting until they are in their teens is too late. The funny thing is, if you ask any of my children if they were ever spanked, they would tell you they really can't remember being spanked. Take control of the situation now, while you still can. Otherwise your 3 year old will take run of you and your house. It is hard to do, and at times I would feel so bad after spanking my child. But now, when I see the results of our disipline, I am proud that we were strong enough to take control at the time.

2007-02-25 10:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Peter E 1 · 0 0

They never warn you about the terrible threes, do they. Keep you cool, he is just trying to learn his boundaries. Stick to the same rules and discipline measures. It may be hard to enforce "time out" because his strength and anger is strong, maybe put him in his room. As long as he does not destroy his things or hurt himself. Even when you are out and he is having a fit, scoop him up and cart him off wherever that you think you can gain control back, the bathroom or car are good places. Do not get embarrassed everyone who has a toddler will understand. Though it does seem like people forget what it's like doesn't it! Hitting other people is not acceptable always tell him he is acting naughty (don't tell him that he IS naughty) Keep the same consequence every time he hits anyone. Try not to spank him a hit for a hit will confuse him. I know that sometimes we think spanking will get him under control, but it just tends to make them more upset. Good luck with this it is not easy. You are not the only mom pulling her hair out. He is a boy and naturally may be more aggressive. This is very normal.

2007-02-25 11:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by R♥bin 4 · 1 0

This is not unusual. Just remember that you cannot get angry. My son gets like this, almost uncontrollable and will hit you with anything he can pick up. I simply pick him up and put him in bed for for ten minutes or so. At the moment my wife cannot control him as she is pregnant with our second child but after over a month of doing this I find that he now stops screaming as soon as I start carrying him up the stairs and is well behaved when I go to get him. I must add that for our son "bed" is where he goes if he is naughty during the day but "boboze" or "snuggle Toby (his favourite stuffed elephant)" is where he goes when he is tired and sleepy, to him they are almost different places.

This is controversial to some but if my son hits me then I smack his hand, sit him down on the floor and ignore him for a couple of minutes. Keep in mind that you must always be calm and avoid anger (almost impossible).

2007-02-25 11:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1 0

Yep, my 2 and half year old is a little swine 5 days out of 7, and I'm convinced she's crafty enough to turn on the charm when daddy looks after her on a weekend when I go to work!! that hurts like hell too! But truthfully it is just a stage and believe it or not you do come through it, just try to remember you are the adult and stay calm (easier said than done I know) All the best... need someone to talk to e-mail me x

2007-02-25 11:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Children have a unique way of thinking and displaying frustration that as adults we can not always interpret. Try asking him in a different way Do you think you can do this? Is this a good idea? We all know children go through this stage and it is difficult to get through. try not to get frustrated look at what happens before he starts this you may find a something that triggers this behaviour an event something he is eating. Give him another year and you will look back and think it was not that bad. Cuddles often help.

2007-02-25 10:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by tink 2 · 0 0

People talk about the terrible twos, but no one warns you of the terrifying threes!

Consistency is the most important thing right now. You can't get on to him once, twice, three times, and let him get away with it the fourth time, because you're tired of getting on to him. Someone once told me, you have to tell a toddler no 14 times, before he understands he can't do that. I don't know how true that is, but it prepares you for the patience you're going to need. Second, try to understand that this is a phase. He's testing the limits, and once he realizes that there are established rules, he'll begin to calm back down. If you don't nip it in the butt now, he'll think he can get away with it. If you're not consistent, he'll know, that sometimes he'll get away with it. I'm a big fan of time outs for young children. They may not want to sit there, so you might have to sit with them. Just don't let him up until his three minutes is over.

Once boundaries are set, and he has a CLEAR knowledge of what's okay and what's not, he'll move on to the smart alegic phase, and THAT'S always fun, ha ha. Just think, in ten years, he'll be completely content to go to his room, and completely ignore you. Good Luck!

2007-02-25 10:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 0 0

we do the "naughty step" - one warning - "stop or you will go and sit on the step - if they don't stop then they sit on the step until the are ready to come back and behave properly. And if they keep getting off the step, just keep putting them back on until they have calmed down. Then ask for an apology and forget about it. Now just the threat of the naughty step works for us.

2007-02-25 21:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Its best to not show them that it bothers you. You have to sit your child down and let them know the conciquences for their behavior and they cannot run around like they control everything. Make concequences for what they do. Follow threw with them and this is just a stage they will eventually grow out of it, i was TERRIBLE when i was three my mom said i was just uncontrollable, and i turned out pretty well! good luck!

2007-02-25 10:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Oh yeah. Typical. Time outs are a must. If that don't work, a good spanking. And yes, I do believe in spankings. Worked for me as a kid and is working for mine. But it's also a stage. they'll grow out of it.

The Syko Ward

2007-02-25 10:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by The Syko Ward 5 · 0 0

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