when she says no , does she mean no ?

Question

i am from india ; i met this wonderful girl ( i am 36 she is 22 ) on the net moved on to phone chat and then a date . but her family is very conservative and will not accept a man of her choosing . so she decided to call it off rather hurtfully by a text message . although i am sympathetic to all she said ever ( she is very ill sometimes with brain haemorrhage ) she suddenly seems to have become ANNOYED . will not take calls , e cards , gets angry if i sms . i am most flummoxed . well she has said that because her cousin sister eloped on the night of our date she does not want to give her parents any pain like that which her uncle and aunt are going through . the date was so successful .... can anyone throw some light .... i am utterly confused to say the least . does she want me to stay and cajol or go . why should 5 text messages in 3 days from me make her want to change her number ? i am not making ghost calls or anything ? is this the brain injury showing through ? sumone help ...

uhh the brain injury is very real and she has said she may change her number not done so yet . i asked the question because we had amazing chemistry before her cousin ( that is not a story ) disappeared .

Answer 1

She told you she had a brain injury? I hope your not sending this person any money. Whether you are Indian or American or whatever, you have been dumped very unkindly. Please don't hold this against other women and treat them badly...American men remember the girl who ditched them in Kindergarten and use that as a reason to be cruel and unusual for the rest of their lives.

Answer 2

Sorry, buddy, she is giving you the cold shoulder because she isn't interested in you. Sure the date probably went well, but it seems the sparks weren't there physically. First of all, she text msg'd you to break up. Then came up with some pretty bogus reasons. Now she is avoiding you all together. Let me put it to you like this...Women are more likely to emotionally attach if the interest is there. If she carried on with you until the day she actually met you face to face, then she had this fantasy of what you may have actually looked like. Doesn't mean you are ugly, just that the physical attraction is not there for her. In my opinion, she carried on alot of conversation with you giving you high hopes and now she is lying to you to break it off so that she doesn't have to face you to tell you the truth. Best to just bow out gracefully before you look like a stalker. You might want to seek companionship from someone your own age who won't play thees games.

Oh, don't people usually die from brain haemorrhages? If she hasn't had any surgeries, I'd really be questioning this gal's character...

Answer 3

You dont say if your lady friend in also from India. But, I suspect that id she is, her parents already have plans for their daughter. I'm not Indian, but I work with several Indian people who have had the common Indian arranged marriage. Perhaps this is what your friends parents have in mind for their daughter.

If I were you, I would look at other means of meeting ladies...maybe through friends or family. Why try to look for the perfecy cyber-date when you can meet one in real life.

Also, you are Indian and 36 and have not been married?? That sounds a bit odd for the culture from what I know. I would let your friend go so that you can move on with your life...I hope you will make the right decision and live happily ever after. Good Luck!

Answer 4

sounds confusing. I would give it a few days without you contacting her and then maybe try once more. If she still doesn't respond to you then write her a good bye note through email and be done with it. I mean you don't want to seem desperate so you don't want to keep writing her and calling her if she isn't responding. So like I said give her some time then try again. And like I also pointed out if she is acting the same as before the just move on. I am sure you can find some one else you will talk to you instead of ignoring you. I know she has problems so I am not trying to be mean but you can't be with some one who isn't putting any effort into it you know? Good luck to you!

Answer 5

thats a very difficult question but family has a lot to do with a relationship and you don't really know her that well so you might be coming on to her a little bit strong...you guys have only met once you know and don't take this to extreme but her family not accepting a guy like you might not allowing her to be around you or talk to you i know thats a little hard to comsume because shes 22 and she has her own opinion or maybe another guy is involved and if you really love her now don't go too strong but every once in a while like once a week remind her of your guys's conversations and memories if any i'm sorry if she don't accept you as you are and if it don't work out there is always someone better there's many (good) fish in the sea

Answer 6

I am impressed with your caring but I think you need to take the no and go on with your life. You sound like a nice guy and I'm sure you won't have any trouble with finding a girl in the future. Her life sounds complicated and I would simply stay away.

Answer 7

i think you should let this one go. why want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. no matter how successful your date was, if she's resorted to changing her #, i think that should be a clear sign to you that she doesn't want to hear from you. let it go and move on, you are borderlying on stalking and that is not a good thing. if you consider your gap in age, that might be another factor. oh, and to answer your question - when you say no, do you mean no?
Definition found from Dictionary.com
1. (a negative used to express dissent, denial, or refusal, as in response to a question or request)
2. (used to emphasize or introduce a negative statement): Not a single person came to the party, no, not a one.
3. not in any degree or manner; not at all (used with a comparative): He is no better.
4. not a (used before an adjective to convey the opposite of the adjective's meaning): His recovery was no small miracle.
–adjective 5. not a (used before a noun to convey the opposite of the noun's meaning): She's no beginner on the ski slopes.
–noun 6. an utterance of the word “no.”
7. a denial or refusal: He responded with a definite no.
8. a negative vote or voter: The noes have it.
–verb (used with object) 9. to reject, refuse approval, or express disapproval of.
–verb (used without object) 10. to express disapproval

Answer 8

dude she is such a tease. Brain hemmorage? Her cousin's sister eloped? come on man. She's making excuses. If she really felt she had a connection, she wouldn't be changing her number. Look just ask her straight up if she's interested. rejection might hurt but it's better than trying to rake your brain for reasons she's trying to avoid you.

Answer 9

It is supposed to be an innuendo to a girl and another girl/guy in a sexual setting. It's is funny in the right context. I have friends who use it non stop at school. Get's kind of gross and annoying.

Answer 10

Why are you trying to be with a 22 year old? Find someone closer to your own age.