i should feel better but i dont, cuz im 33 and i am old, or getting there. what guy is going to want 2 be with me? i have no kids, college degreed, but im scare i will be alone 4 ever!
2007-02-25 10:14:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be glad you are out of that relationship. In time things will improve. I promise. No man that hits a woman is worth shedding a tear over.
In listening to your addition to this question, you put yourself down because you are 33 and saying what guy is going to want to be with you. This guy really did a number on you, not just by physically hitting you, but it sounds like he had been filling your head with depreciating BullSh*t, too. Boys who hit thier girlfriends and wives tend to mentally abuse them too. That's because the only way he can get a girl to stay is by keepin her down and convincing her that she is worthless and needs him .. sound familiar?
Anyway, 33 is not old, and you know that. No kids is great, it leaves you with no ties to that a**hole. and congrats on the college degree. All these are great points that you can be proud of, not ashamed of.
It's time to get your life back together and focus on you. Dig deep within yourself and learn why you were attracted to a man who would repeatedly hurt you. Abusive relationships are usually pattern behavior, so it may be a good thing for you to not jump into another relationship just yet. Maybe see a therapist who can halp you to uncover why and break your pattern of bad relationships.
Be happy this guy is out of your life, forever. He's no longer your problem! Focus on you for the time being, and in the future be more picky about the men you date. You have the right to be!
I wish you the Best!
P.S. If he comes back, slam the door in his face. Him leaving is a blessing.
2007-02-25 10:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound great to me ;) Lets see, 33 and no kids is a rare and big plus! That means you can invest yourself into a meaningful one on one relationship! And you would likely have the freedom to travel! Additionally,if you are educated, that is always a good thing! What could be better? Well, I guess in all honesty, if you were curvy & voluptuous that would make you perfect! LOL Hummmm, oh darn, wait a minute, don't all women in there 30's either have kids or want kids?!? perhaps you aren't the real deal but rather a person in a foreign country running a scam to find an American guy! ROFLMAO
The Spelling of "scare" and the lack of a capitol "I" is a giveaway!
2007-02-25 18:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Roaddogg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what honey, you are better off without that man, he doesn't even deserve the tiltle of a man because he put his hands on you. You should not be the least upset baby girl, you desrve better than he can ever give you and if anything you should be worried about her safety dealing with his crazy ***. Now as far as you being alone I know for a fact there is someone for everyone and you just give yourself time to heal and focus on what is right for YOU and what you need. Spend some time with yourself and treat yourself like a queen because the best love is self love baby. Take care of yourself so that when that REAL man comes along he can really show what real love and being treated like a queen is all about. Keep your head up ma!!
2007-02-25 18:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by JaNelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married now I was married at 41 do not worry about the marriage thing it can come at any time
No man has the right to hurt you mentally or physically five years was too long to stay pray for his new woman and you may check out a woman's shelter for some free counseling I am afraid you are have self esteem problems now and you need to know you are all right and that you are a survivor and I am proud of you. Stand tall you will be alright
2007-02-25 18:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way at least ur not getting the $hi* beat out of you now so that is always a plus! Your not gonna be alone, your just now getting back int othe game. And if he beat you then he will beat her so she has not gained anything from ur loss but it sounds like u did not loose much... Give it time and it will come But treat ur self better and respect ur self more and those around you will also and then you will find a real man that dont beat
2007-02-25 18:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by babyboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut up!
you are complaining about being alone forever..ur still young so SHUT UP
Plenty of people have it worse than you
if u ask me, which you did, you're pretty damn lucky
you were stuck in a hell hole relationship for FIVE years ...all complete with abuse and pain..and u made it out alive.
You got lucky
so shut up and stop complaining. You're ONLY 33...if you see you're true inner beauty, others will see it too.
Im sure you're smart, beautiful, and perfectly appealing to the opposite sex
good luck
hope this helps
PS always remember...theres always someone worse off
2007-02-25 18:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With that attitude, you will be alone forever. You need to put yourself in a different frame of mind. Get out of your rut way of thinking. Get out, have fun, keep in contact with good people in your life that do care about you. Do some charity work, get involved in politics, get out mixing and mingling. You will be surprise how many great awesome people that are out there.
Any man who is mean to women is not a man at all. Any man that chokes you, threatens you, or makes you feel bad because of their behavior is a mess. You are very lucky to have that creep out of your life. Please change your way of thinking.
2007-02-25 18:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank your lucky stars that this LOSER is gone for good. You deserve someone who is going to love, honour, and cherish you, NOT degrade, hurt, and abuse you!!!!!!! You are not old, just a little more experienced. Take your educated self out for a spa treatment and out with the girls for a fun night out. Let this one drift farrrrrrr from your memory. When you do find mister right, you will know it and thank god that you never wasted another moment with him!
Good luck
2007-02-25 18:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax if he used to hit you etc. do not let him come back. 33 is not old. I am in my late 40s and have never had a birthday bother me except my 30th. I still feel like I am 20.
2007-02-25 18:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u need to really move on if a guy hurts u u really dont deserve that u r not going to b alone forever jus not wit that guy..he choked and slapped u he was meaning to harm u and u should c that ! another guy is way better for u
2007-02-25 18:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by precious 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋