i just need an answer with a sense!
2007-02-25 09:59:55 · 16 answers · asked by HiP_ChiCk! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know it hurts, but it is important for a child to form an emotional bond with his or her caregiver. It shows that the sitter is taking good care of your child. While my own children never went through this, I take care of a 21 month old whose mother is a single mom in the army. She just doesnt have the option of spending more time with her son, she is at the disposal of the Army. So he spends many nights with me, plus days. When she deploys, he will be with me 24/7 for at least a year. Trust me, she wants to have a substitute mom for her son. She WANTS someone who will love her son and have her son love me.
It is a bigger problem when the child doesnt want to go with the sitter. That is a BAD sign! So to those replies that said you should find a new sitter or spend more time with your child so find a part time job is WAY WAY WAY off base. It is natural, and it is a phase that will pass. Just appreciate that your child is attached to his/her caregiver and riiiiiide it out! Best!
2007-02-25 11:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby does not love the babysitter more than you. We as human beings are used to what we see a lot and your baby sees the babysitter a lot and that's just a passing phase. There is something about your heartbeat that the baby heard when growing inside of you and there is something about your smell that the baby loves and those things will never go away and cannot be overcome by just seeing the babysitter more than you :-)
2007-02-25 18:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by brainbox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry i can promise you your baby doesnt love the babysitter more than you, The baby sitter is the one who comes over and lets them have fun! You are the mom, you are responsible for raising them, when they are 20 and headed on the right track, the baby sitter isnt even gunna cross there mind of who to thank for it! Kids dont even remember babysitters by the time they are 12. You are always going to be number one in their life. The babysitter is just the more unresponsible one who comes over somtimes and kids get to stay up later, eat more junk food ect. it has nothing to do with the actual babysitter its just what they can get away with! trust me that is nothign to worry about, it may not seem like it, and your child might not know it yet but you are the most important person in their life!!
2007-02-25 18:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your child doesn't love the babysitter more than he loves you. They know who their mother is. The babysitter probably just does more fun things with your child than you have time to do. Don't feel guilty. Trust me! I'm 13. Just because I give some one else more attention than i do you it doesn't mean that i love them more than i love you because i don't. I'm just having more fun with that person at the moment. Try to spend more time with your child and you'll see more attention turned on you rather than the babysitter.
2007-02-25 20:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably kind of hurt my feelings, it would make me re-think the time I spend away from my baby. But if there is no way out of using the sitter, I would try to realize that it is a good thing that the baby like her so much, because it means she is a good baby sitter. Hope that makes sense.
2007-02-25 18:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. You are his mother and that's all he needs. The babysitter is temporary and trust me, you should feel blessed to have one that good. It shows you're a good judge of character. Take it as a compliment and don't let this situation make you feel inadequate. Just being concerned about it shows you're a good mother. Take advantage of it. Your time with your baby should be calm and quiet and loving. There is no competition.
2007-02-25 18:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by paulamlank 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age where 2 or more incomes are required to make a decent living - it is difficult to spend the time required to raise kids the way we believe is proper - so the kids may become attached emotionally to their baby sitters too. Once a child is old enough - It will be important to explain to them the reason for having them watched over by someone other than their parent(s).
2007-02-25 18:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by geosworld 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would feel pretty bad!
If u feel strongly that the baby loves the sitter more than you.
Take a week off and spend some quality time with them. Mabey, you could change your work hours. Try to get hours whent he baby is awake and active. Then find a sitter that will be able to work during the later hours.
If thats not a possibilitie then find a new sitter, one that is really boring!
2007-02-25 18:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
:o( I would feel terrible...I sometimes even feel a little jealous when my sister holds my daughter or my daughter will give daddy kisses, but not me.
I dont think its a case of the child "loving" anyone more than their mummy though...my daughter is fine with going to the sitters or to preschool but after a few hours (well one time it took 3 days!) if I am not around she starts to ask for me and nothing will do till she sees me again - even hearing my voice isnt enough, so I know she loves me.
2007-02-25 23:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by karma_au_1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to babysit for a little boy and he called me mom one day in front of his mom, she was very hurt but this prompted her to make more time for her son even if it meant cutting certain stuff out of her life that she liked doing.
2007-02-25 20:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by pumpkinautumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋