I've had this trouble ever since I started dating. I really like a guy, so I date him. But after about a month or so, I get tired of him and actually get to the point where I don't even want to talk to him or see him. What's wrong with me? Why can't I keep a relationship for more than a month??
2007-02-25 09:59:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you probably just get bored with them. theres no real connection that keeps your interest. slow down and decide what you really want. then when you find it, go for it
2007-02-25 10:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by ShaLaLaLaLaLaMyOhMy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you want a "BOYFRIEND", not a friend. The best boyfriends are those who would make good friends. They are the kinds of people that you can always talk too; have a good time with; trust and share your heart with; the ones that can keep secrets; respect your decisions and remeber what makes you happy or sad; someone who would make a good partner in a team based situation. It's about working together and doing things for each other, very much like a regular best friend relationship. A relationship is never a one way street. There is a lot of giving and sharing involved. Don't exspect anything from the person just let them be who they are. Try just being friends for about 6 months, even if you find yourself interested in the person before you start having a serious relationship with them. Don't change your friendship toward each other after you've become serious. This whole dating thing has gotten out of control and is overrated. We all got programed to think that boyfriend/girlfriends are supposed to be sophisticated superstars when the truth is we are all just simple human beings who want to be loved and enjoy life. Not one of us is perfect. If you and the dude you like can get out of the mind set of trying to be something you are not then you can actually learn to enjoy each other for a longer period of time practically forever.
2007-02-25 18:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by SOGWAP37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is actually a very good sign! It means you haven't found Mr Right yet - so don't feel guilty about "dumping" the guy and moving on. Read Mira Kirshenbaum's books - she's fantastic. She calls this "experimenting" to find out what you like. There's a really good book called "Women ^ Love: Finding True Love While Staying True to Yourself" by Mira. I thoroughly recommend you read it.
Good luck and don't settle for anything less than the best!
2007-02-25 18:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by goodcompanypls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are describing is simple maturity, and lack of true feelings for the guys you choose to date, ask yourself do you date a guy just because he is good looking, or is popular, do you make a attempt to become friends first with him, getting to know there personality to see if you would be a good match before making a date. if not try these suggestions and see if things change for you.
2007-02-25 18:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by dheck03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mebe you should stop dating for a while.
get the feel of being single again, even if you do
fall for another boy.
if you move too fast, it gets tiring.
too slow, you get bored.
nothings wrong with you, but it sounds like you are
not completely equiped for a long lasting relationship.
and you need to take a breather!
2007-02-25 18:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by ninjah_jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like your very controlling. Which is your problem. In reality you would like your boyfriends to play this part but they don't. So after getting your way for a while, you become bored. hopefully you will meet your match in beauty and control. good luck
2007-02-25 18:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by wolf in sheep cloths 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. It happens to me too. I mean not that I'm like an EXPERT at dating or anything.
I think you just need to find a guy that stimulates you emotionally, mentally, and physically. Once you meet this guy, you won't get sick of him.
He'll roll along eventually.
2007-02-25 18:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by honey_bear14_03 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you want to try out different types... until you find the type your looking for... then maybe then you might settle down on one your into... its all your decision... you take control of your life... and you deside whether or not you want to date him or not... but sooner or later... there will be one you will like out of all the types you've gone with...
2007-02-25 18:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well usually you like to "look" at a guy and say oooo hes hott i wish he was my boyfriend and when yall start dating its starts off "hott" or when you and mushy gushy then the pasion just goes away...its just the way it is...nothings wrong with you!
2007-02-25 18:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by heather 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe u like the idea of having a bf. or a commitment phobic. or both. i don't kno what to tell u
2007-02-25 18:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by ipfreely91 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋