I have been in a relationship for three years, and there is intense history between the two of us. When I met the guy I was in school and working focused in short. Things changed when I met him, I begin to smoke weed and not go to class--this is college I could not handle both lives and believed that his time was more cherished at the time.
I've lost really great jobs behind him, he thought i was sleeping with hotel guest when i worked for a really prestigious hotel and begin to get violent with me; he wasn't working and we had an apartment together. I paid all the bills, cell and everything. I ended up becoming pregnant and took a trip to Los Angeles for my birthday we had a really bad altercation and I ended up staying while he left. Eventually I found out I was 3 months pregnant and told him he said he wasn't going to help me and I would have to do things alone, this reality scared me and I immediately proceeded with an abortion. I came back to visit and he wants me to stay.
2007-02-25 09:57:29 · 12 answers · asked by Diva 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in a seven year relationship that stole my joy, my peace and my identity. Although I was miserable, I was too afraid to leave because my self esteem was so low. In my mind, no one else would want me and I didn't deserve any better. But, one day when I was in my room crying on my bed (over ANOTHER disappointment my ex caused), I heard this voice in my mind and it said "If you do not leave, you will destroy your life forever. The pain and sorrow that you feel now will not compare to the pain you will feel later." So, girlfriend, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE - walk away and don't look back. Stop thinking about him and think about yourself. He does NOT love you and he is NO good. He has to take care of himself and he needs to do that on his own. It is not your responsibility, although you probably think you can save him.
A relationship is supposed to improve your life. A mate is supposed to make you proud. Love is supposed to make you feel good about yourself. None of what you have shared even comes remotely close to this. Walk away - losing this guy will help you find yourself! Good luck!
2007-02-25 10:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself to BIG questions. One, you were in school and on the road to being successful and you lost it all over this guy, you should be asking yourself was it really worth it and do I want to go through it all over again? Because he is not going to change his ways that's pretty clear. Two, you almost had a kid with this guy, you should ask do I really want to bring a child into this world under these conditions? I'm not a fan of abortion but in your case it was the right situation but that doesn't mean it is the answer. What if you stay and become pregnant again? This is a time when you should care about yourself and leave. It would be better for you in the long run.
2007-02-25 10:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by PJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you should definitely leave him. It will be hard, since you've been together so long. But you have to do it. That is not a healthy relationship. In a relationship, people are supposed to help each other become better people, not worse. And it sounds like he's not doing anything to add to the relationship. So you should let him go and find someone new.
2007-02-25 10:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by MJ2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont wanna get into your guys' buisness but if i knew you i would want the best...you need to be safe and with someone who cares and wants you trully in their heart to be with them for their lifetime.to me thats what love is.Now about what you are saying that he didnt want to take care of the baby is showing that he is not a true man,he doesnt have the strength and the courage to stand up and say he is a real father.With him being abusive and accusing you for doing something you say you did not do is very unfare to you.i know how you fell about being blamed for something you would not do.If i where you i would pray to god whether you believe in him or not and ask if you should stay or go.From what i have read you are not happy with him and what he is doing.Smoking pot is very bad for you and you should not do it ,but some people do it due to peer pressure and their spouse.I would get rid of him as soon as possible before it is too late.I wouldnt want you to get killed or hurt by someone i could of gotten rid of in the past.I will keep writing and be here if you need any thing else.And i hope you make the right choice and leave,god bless you and good luck...tell me when you have made your decision. <33 always here , shasta jane
2007-02-25 10:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by shasta jane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 thing if u are still on weed then get off! 2 dump him if he can't respect u for your job,school,or work then tell him he can't have your heart!
2007-02-25 10:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by b.! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even go back to visit ? Haven't you had enough punishment from this guy ?... GET REAL...RUN.
2007-02-25 10:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like u should not stay but move on with your life
2007-02-25 10:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haul your but down the road and dont look back
2007-02-25 10:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave ... Run Fast and don't ever look back!!!
2007-02-25 10:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by divinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeeze, stop the self abuse........ Leave this guy ..he's a train wreck.......
2007-02-25 10:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by cesare214 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋