we dont live together and he hasnt worked in over a year.........and i do love him......but i know i should probably just move on because all he likes to do is hustle everyday on just enough money to buy his cigerettes, beer .........and drugs..........
2007-02-25 09:51:39 · 26 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You DEFINITELY need to move on. 55 years old, doesn't work, and all he does is hustle, smoke, drink, and do drugs??? Not enduring qualities I look for in a man. What exactly do you see in him? He sounds like he has no desire to better his life, and no goals AT ALL. After 8 years of dating, and this is all you have to show for it? No commitment, no engagement, no offer of marriage, and a man who is basically worthless. Do yourself a BIG favor, and MOVE ON!
You didn't mention kids, but if there are kids involved here, you really really need to move on for their sakes, if not your own. They don't need to be raised in that kind of lifestyle, and they don't need a lazy, drinking, hustling drug addict as a role model. They deserve much better out of life, and believe or not, so do you.
2007-02-25 09:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Speedy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That does not sound like a healthy relationship. I mean he's 55 and does not have a job that's not cool. I don't see how he can offer you much being that he's either drunk or high all the time. Besides he's an older man and i doubt that he's going to change anytime soon. Try someone a bit younger then. I'm 30 and love older women, it just seems that they undersrtand me a bit better. And if he's hustling all the time you don't want to get caught up in that in anyway.
2007-02-25 10:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 43 you should know better than to get involved with that type of lifestyle. You said it yourself, all he wants to do is Hustle everyday. He will just hustle you out of your money, and kindness, and eventually drag you down into his lifestyle with drugs.
There is no changing a man. I don't know why women keep thinking they can.
Move on. If you really need a man in your life that badly, it won;t be hard to find someone better. This guy is literally the bottom of the barrel.
2007-02-25 09:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are already questioning yourself and you already no the answer to your own question right now! You have a relationship with a loser. He drinks beer, smokes cigarrettes, and does drugs!!!! My God! What kind of future are you going to have with a man like that? Not a very good one. He doesn't have a good job and he is 55 years old. He probably doesn't have any retirement saved and probably doesn't have much of anything as well. Please move on and hopefully you will have better luck in the future!
2007-02-25 10:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you are saying is true, and we are just getting one side of the story, then I think you answered your own question a long time ago and have just failed miserably in detaching yourself from the leech.
I don't know you or him, but I do know that at 46, unless you are morally and socially defunct, that a life by yourself is better than a life with a person who stays around just for the perks of beer, cigs, etc. Also, at 55, there is very little chance he is ever gonna change.
2007-02-25 10:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by rexallen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay darling:
You know the answer to this question. You just don't want to come to grips with the answer. 1) Been with him 8 years and nothing (marriage) has not come out of it! Loser. 2) Not worked for over a year and spending what he has made on crap? Loser. Why are you settling for this? It took me two years to get over a similar relationship. But, I did it and I'm happy I did. You will be too. Don't allow this to happen to you. You deserve better and YOU KNOW IT. Stop being the "poor me" victim and do something about it. Sorry... the truth hurts.
2007-02-25 09:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Zoonie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Cutie, you already know the answer to this question, then you don't have to ask it. But just let me say, if it is only about having a warm body next to you occasionally, then I say you can do bette. You are probably holding him up at present. It doesn't sounds like your enjoying it. Then don't do it. You've been doing it for too long. If you both don't have something to offer each other, then there is a problem.
2007-02-25 09:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by Diane T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
key word, doll: DRUGS...
i mean u can love him. and he mite love you. but if he's "hustling money on cigarettes, beer, and stuff.. then something's deffinately wrong!...
he should love you enough to not do those things.. if he really love you he would put you first in his life. he would take better care of himself to try and be the best man for you. he would want to find a job to support you. he might be the best sweetest guy in the world and actually love you. but in his current situation, he sounds like a bum. he needs to pick up his life and get it together.
and now dont you want someone who cares enough to take care of himself. he has no respect for himself. so wut would make him respect you??
think on this. give it a second thaught. ....tell him if he wants you or really loves you there needs to b some major changes
2007-02-25 10:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by 8teen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello I'm a 37old Male and I have two jobs and no lady, It's not that I can't get one it's just haven't found a good one yet. I can't help u on your mans drug problem but you may be able to help me. lets chat some time and maybe we can help each other.
Keil
2007-02-28 05:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mike J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs is a no no. Hit the road jack.
My aunt's husband had been maintaining the family for years but his compny fell apart. So now she's been bringing home the bacon for two years now. She treats him real special. He smokes and drinks. He does a little housework now and again for her. They are happy. NO DRUGS, THOUGH.
2007-02-25 09:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by Party _Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋