I want to get her what she deserves, but the more I delay to save up the longer it is til I can see her (she's yank, I'm Brit). If I rushed it I'd live to regret it, if I delay, we'll both lose our minds. No ring no wedding no living together though, so.....Some advice guys?
2007-02-25 09:51:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiance is brit and i'm a yank. My advice is to just get her a ring, it doesn't matter what you pay for it, your love is more than the ring. Pushing the wedding off because of a ring will only cause anxiety. If I had my choice to have him or an expensive ring, I'd have HIM.
P.S. Not all girls are materialistic.
2007-02-25 15:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by baby star 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never heard about times your salary for an engagement ring. It is entirely up to you what you want to spend but not only that you know more than any of us the type of person this girl is. I am sure if she loves you she will be delighted by whatever ring you buy her but if you want to put some thought in to what she is likely to want if she was choosing, ask yourself what type of clothes, make up etc she normally buys. If it's not expensive to average she would probably not want you to spend a fortune. If she was the type that only bought designer gear etc think although may never say would prefer a half decent ring. Other thought is to ask her to marry you..........once she has accepted you are engaged, ring or no ring and ask her what kind of ring she would like and be truthful from the beginning about the amount you have saved but tell her you are willing to save more for what she really wants. It is not unusual here in any case (Scotland) that the couple go together and choose the ring. Even if only spending a few hundred pounds it is just like anything else you want her to like it. I know it's perhaps taking the old romantic bit away but it is just a suggestion, you know best yourself what to do. Trust is all goes well and best wishes.
2007-02-25 19:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a yank myself, I'd say pop the question an give the engagement ring as a wedding present, you know like a month or a few weeks before the wedding, or don't have a wedding band and use her diamond ring (I'm assuming) instead. I've heard a lot of people are doing that.
All you have to do is make the proposal exceedingly romantic - this doesn't immediately mean a large price tag either - tak eher breath away by doing that and then explain the situation. It shouldn't matter to her.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 18:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter what you spend for an Engagement, where did you hear about spending months and months of your hard earned salary? And by the way what would you live on if you did that, unless you have a substantial savings. If your future mate doesn't take into consideration the thought that was behind you finding the right ring for her and all she cares about is what you paid for it, then be prepared to spend the rest of your married life buying expensive, materialistic, gifts for a shallow person.
Give her a ring that you think she would love and don't worry about the price. Good luck and Best wishes to You Both.
2007-02-25 18:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by MiMi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with two or three months' wages you might have heard of; that's just a marketing ploy. Just buy her what you can for whatever you can comfortably afford. A mature woman will love ANY ring, as long as it comes with that very important question. Over here, the average for an engagement ring is about $1,000.
2007-02-25 22:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she live in America? if so buy the ring there it will cost less than here,the ring does not have to be expensive,but not too cheap either, go for something in the middle,hasn't she hinted on the kind of ring that she would like,or even said that is a nice ring?
mine was a months wages and I'm going back 32 years
2007-02-25 19:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Brit, rather surprisingly for me (was wanting the huge diamond!) fell in love with a 'previously owned' beautiful light blue sapphire and 2 diamonds.... about £100, I think.
It's certainly not how much it costs that matters, but only you know how your other half will react. Is she a woman who likes the fine things in life...
And I'd definitely let her give you a clue as to the style of ring she likes the best....
Good luck, all the best!
2007-02-25 18:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think about it, it's just a ring...it is a symbol of the commitment. I think you should get her what you can afford. Down the road you can always upgrade to a nicer ring if you want to do so but I wouldn't keep waiting because you feel obligated to spend a certain amount of money on the ring...It's more important to have the girl and to be with her than to spend your life saving up for a ring...
2007-02-25 17:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
iv never heard of this spending x amount of months salary on the engagement ring....but i agree with the other folk that u should only spend what you can afford....i wouldd say go to the big jewellers first to see what kind of styles and prices you can get for your budget range....and then go to some smaller but decent jewellers as they will be considerably cheaper and usually if they dont have what you like they can make it from scratch for you.
where in uk u from?...if u live in birmingham i would reccomend the Jewellery Quarter near birmingham city centre...or as she's from usa...jus fly over to her and buy her a ring in the duty free section! lol gudluck anyway and i hope it all works out for you
2007-02-25 18:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by Jam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An outdated rule of thumb was that you should spend the equivalent of 2 months salary. Don't go into hock for the ring. Select something well within your means since money, and lack of it, can be a cause of friction in a marriage.
2007-02-25 17:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋