I am depressed at 13?

Question

I am only 13 years old. This is like my 4th question on this subject. I am not completly sure why I am depressed but I know I am. I know some reasons I am, but I don't know why I am so sad about all of it. I have always strived for perfection. I know perfection is not possible, but I have always been pleased with my work. Everyone thinks of me as perfect and that bothers me though. I am not and I screw up too. That's partly why I am in the situation I am in (but not the whole reason why). My reading teacher realized I was depressed and told me she thought I was about 2 months ago. I told her that wasn't true even though it was. She didn't believe me. (I am a horrible lier.) She sent me to the counsoler's office. I wouldn't talk so she finally let me go. I am a shy person which sucks. I have tried to come out of my shell. I have a little. I would like for my teacher to ask me again so I can tell her the truth. I am scared to just go up to her and tell her.

I really don't want to tell my parents. I know I should but I just feel like I am thousand miles away from my parents planet. I have already asked a question on suicide. I want to but I don't want to hurt my parents and make them feel they aren't good parents. I would also chicken out to. I am really close to crossing over the edge though.

all you people who think 13 year olds can't be depressed I have news for you... they can. When you are 13 you feel alone.YOu don't have true friends. They turn on you every day. You feel like the world is a billion miles away going on without you. Do you remember all those nights you stayed up until 2 o'clock in the morning doing your homework. Do y'all remember how clueless your parents seemed. Do you remember what it was like when you got a B on your report card?(for me I will start crying). Do you remember what it was like to come home and a note was left on the bar telling you your list of chores and that your mom and dad will be home about 10'oclock. If you don't well that is also because being 13 now is a lot harder than it was back when you were 13. It is a different world than when you were in school. All the gossip and also how mean kids are to each other now. Teenagers understand what I am saying.

Answer 1

Depression is like slow death "I use the term dieing as slow as a tree" it destroys the mind the body and soul. Gen tics seem to be the leading cause and there so many different case studies that one individual could fit 3 to 5 of each part being. I hated personally,and believe the brain is an under discover country which traps so many rights and wrongs. Just think a person can be born with gray hair coming at age 10, now what if your brain has one blood vessel that is wire wrong or it's big to small or just misguided to a different path. What I'm say is I think Depression is a interlocking part of the brain that is forsaking born with problems that we have the spend the time to research and understand. Because we spend all our funding on weapons of mass destruction. This is only advice I can give you you need change may be diet, friends, exploring nature, excise, learning new ways to develop skills and maybe just finding a pet. Love and light will glide you I been battle this crap for 30 years and shyness just makes it worst. Try shopping at the mall that work for me when shyness kicks in your force to meet people.

Answer 2

YOU'RE DEPRESSED? You're 13 yrs. old, young and health, is still alive (which you should be thankful for; many teens have died either from drugs or something unpreventable) and have a roof over your head. Your parents financially supports you, which is a good thing 'cause you won't have stress working and keeping a job while paying the bills, buying food, buying seasonal clothes, etc..., which is how you get to type your answer and get advice on YOUR computer. You should count your blessings, and be thankful that you're alive to FEEL.
If you're really, really depress, do things fun, such as playing video games (after doing homework, of course), talking and playing with your pets (if you have any), listen to upbeat music, and/or look at comedy films that will have you laugh (laughter, by the way, is healthy). Stop trying to be perfect; nobody's perfect. If everyone was perfect, this will be a boring, uninteresting world. I could tell that you're a intelligent person, so you should realize that smartness naturally comes to you if you study and apply yourself, not by stressing yourself out. Be yourself, but subtract the depression part.

Answer 3

wow well i'm so sorry you're depressed and im sure there is a great reason behind it. First of all so i won't freak you out my names Aileen Duran, im 15 years old so i'm real close to what you're feeling. Lately i feel the same too and i can't help it! except i have reasons to be depressed. SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER!!! trust me i have heard so much on suicide. They say it's really painful after death. That a lot of the time why people say they see ghosts is because of those souls who commited suicide and cannot have self acceptance and are looking for a reason. also if you try to commit it, it will stay in your mind for a long period of time. What i can tell you to do is join perhaps an art class... write poetry... keep a journal... anything like that helps relieve the sadness and stress.. what you can do as well is make yourself over... play with makeup or dress yourself up for no reason. this will help you feel better about yourself. i suggest that you write your teacher a letter or a note and write in it if you could please talk to her after school about depression... please talk to her and if you need anything else im here ok?

Answer 4

I know how you feel ..depression is a horrible feeling. you dont need to go to your teacher to get help. Just go to the counselors office. You dont have to spill your guts all at once..just talk a little at first. let her be your friend. She went to college for this so she knows what she is doing. Tell her you are nervous talking to her..she should be able to calm you. Also if you are a christian...talk to God...he is always listening. And your parents love you...I am a parent and if my son had a problem I would want to help...Sometimes just talking helps so much...dont think about suicide..nothing is so bad that you would want to not live...13 is a hard time. you have lots of feelings and strange emotions that you never had before...but things get better. They do!!! I am sure you are a beautiful, smart girl with a ton of potential and the world needs you now ...and later when you go into your profession as an adult. You will be ok...just get help and hold on sweetie.

Answer 5

Honey, I'm about your age and I understand how you feel. The most important thing I can tell you is to put your trust in God, talk to your parents, and get some medical help. God loves you, and he will heal you if you believe in him, and trust him. I know you don't know how to tell your parents, but they love you, and will completely understand, no matter how distant you feel from them now. It's likely that the reason you feel so far from them is because of your depression. Finally, after you've talked to your parents, you should see a doctor. Clinical depression is a common thing, and easily treated by medication. It's nothing to be afraid or ashamed of, as everyone struggles. Your parents will not feel bad, they will only want to help you feel better. Trust me! The most important thing you could do at this point is tell you're parents how you feel, then get medical help. Finally, God is always there. He loves and cares for you so mush, and wants you to be happy. Just say a prayer to him, a real prayer, and ask him to comfort you. Talking to a pastor or something would also help alot! If you know any, I 'm positive they will only want help you. That's what they're there for, is to help people.
I hope you get help and fell better!
With Love,
Rebekah.

Answer 6

A 13-year-old can most certainly experience depression. It's been a lot of years since I was 13, but I remember very clearly going through something very similar at your age. In my case there were a variety of factors, one of which is common to all of us: the stress of transition from childhood to adolescence. Another was that my younger sister was in and out of the hospital with serious health issues, so my parents were stressed and preoccupied with that. Another was that, like you, I was perceived as being the perfect little student. Reality was that I worried too much about maintaining this false standard of perfection, and didn't consider myself capable of living up to it. This caused me no end of anxiety. I became such a worrier that I began having digestive problems and was unable to sleep. Eventually this led to a depression---in 8th grade. Fortunately, like you I had a teacher who had taken an interest in me and helped me through this rough time in my life. Again like you, I was shy and it took all the courage I could muster to tell him how I felt. I was so glad that I did, and I thank God that Mr. Hendricks was there for me when I needed someone. I hope you can find the courage to do the same.

::EDIT:: Someone else answered that you can go directly to the counselor rather than through your teacher. I completely agree, if that's what you want to do.

Answer 7

Honey, try writing your teacher a note. if you are shy this is the easiest way. A big part of why you feel so lost is hormones. I have teenagers and have gone through this. You have so much of your life ahead of you dont ever think of taking your life! There are medicines out there that you could get on that will help your body adjust to all of the things going on. Try writing the teacher a note, or even the counselor. Dont let it go on.

Answer 8

Unfortunately depression can occur at an age.

I know a school counselor who, without giving personal information, has told me of the kinds of situations she faces each day. Yours is not at all unusual. By some estimates depression is one of the most pervasive, serious health conditions in our society effecting 10% to 20% of the population during their lives.

Fortunately you appear to understand what is going on. While you did deny this to your reading teacher, you admit it to yourself. This is courageous and is the first step in dealing with it.

Historically there has been such shame associated with mental health issues that they have been pushed under the rug but that is changing. Many people in your parents generation understand that mental health is every bit as important as physical health. Insurance plans are now required to provide for treatment.

All this means that your counselor is ready to help you and knows how to help you with your parents. But first you have to admit your problem to her. Don't think about it, just go to see her. She won't tell you this but she is probably already working on similar situations with others in your school and even in your class. You cannot embarrass her and she will not embarrass you.

Go to her at the first oppportunity.

Answer 9

Honey if you feel like you want to hurt your self or others then you will mostly do it regardless of if you think you could or not.I'm talking from expenses About 10 years ago i was just like you and i tried to kill my self i never thought i would go though with it and i did. I'm not going to sugar coat it for you you need to pall your head out your *** and tell someone before it is to late. You don't have to tell your mom and dad but i would. They are the one that can help you more then anyone else. Just tell them that you are depressed and you sometimes you think about hurting your self or other people. Never be afraid to the way they react be afraid to the way you are going to react if you don't they will understand and want to help you every way they can. Good luck tell your mom and dad.

Answer 10

Well i now it can be hard! i have been feeling the same way latley. I think the best way to get over it is if u have someone special u can talk to like a best friend!- if u dont tust no1(n i know how dat feels)u could take a rest calm down- realax even if that means u have to cry it out! well i hope my advise helps, im trying to listen to my voice too! well if u have any answers 4 me tell me bout cuz i dont know what to do nether!lol well bey n hope i talk to u soon!:)