In my personal life im going through alot of stress with serious matters such complicated heavy family issues also involving the law. On top of this im having seviere financial problems due to the first problem and have just lost my job... so to say the least im very stressed and keep snapping at my partner over every little thing and im becoming increasingly irritated with him although he i know its not him its me being irritable. Im worried i may end up loosing him too due to me not being able to handle the pressure and taking it out on him, please help me with some tips of how i can not ruin my relationship whilst im going through all this.
2007-02-25 09:28:04 · 13 answers · asked by Julliette 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then don't leave him otherwise you may get nervous breakdown
2007-02-25 09:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best idea is to talk to a therapist, I have one, and when I feel the pressure build, I call her, and she can give me ideas on coping with my anger and stress in good rather than bad ways.
Prayer is also a great help. I pray a lot, and though I am still a mess in many ways, God does give you comfort, and a sense of calm, to get through, when you are really tense. Takinga hot bath helps, as does watching a funny movie to take your mind off things. Tell your lover that you need him to be patient while you are working through this hard time, and that you will do all you can to lighten up.
2007-02-25 17:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by wehweh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down & talk to him!!! Before you do ANYTHING ELSE! (inc reading another q on here). You need his support & understanding to help you cope with all this, explain how much pressure & strain your under & he should realise that your temper is out of your natrual style. Then may be he can help you find someone "professional" to help you sort out the rest of the problems. Or persude you to let other "family" take some of the pressure, rather than you taking it all on your own shoulder.
2007-02-25 17:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him this, he understands, but it will help him to know you are aware of the problem. Make hey while the sun shines, if there are quiet times, when you can think this clearly, don't waste them here, reading this rubbish, go talk to him.
Love can take a lot of punishment, but it can't take hopelessness. If he knows it will not all be in vain, I'm sure he will love you through all the other worries.
2007-02-25 17:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a word with your GP (family doctor) ... Just speaking to a completely objective third party can help loads ...
They may also be able to refer you for some basic counselling or CBT to help you develop coping skills ...
My own favourite tips would be: loud music (with headphones); exercise; and relaxation 'tapes' ...
All the best ... x
2007-02-25 17:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by confused-in-love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him exactly how you are feeling. He should be very understanding and he should tell you not to worry and that he will try and help as much as he can.
Good Luck!
2007-02-25 17:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with michelle, leaving him or letting him leave you would be the biggest mistake...you'd go suicidal...just talk to your partner and tell him how you're feeling and ask him to help you find a job...it's always better to work as a team.
2007-02-25 17:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by n1cyndy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop going off on him.
When you feel frustrated, find something to do. Listen to music, contact friends...do something to help you relax.
2007-02-25 17:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him say that your in over your head and that you know that have snapped at him n tell him your sorry .
2007-02-25 17:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by Crack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cook him a meal and forget about everything else for one night and explain your feelings and worries to him
2007-02-25 17:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by tibbs01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋