She's getting divorced, but might still be with her husband when my fiancee and I get married. Should she be the maid of honor or the matron of honor?
2007-02-25 09:19:34 · 17 answers · asked by GroovyGirl623 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think I'd put her in charge of the guest book or something. People who are chosen to "stand up for you" at your wedding are supposed to be people who understand marriage, vows, commitment, and support yours. A divorcing woman standing up for newlyweds seems a little hypocritical in my opinion.
2007-02-25 09:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I think you should let her decide what she would prefer. She might not feel comfortable being "matron" if she really is on bad terms with her husband and the relationship has ended and they are only still married because the divorce isn't final yet. She may prefer if she can be "maid of honor" and it's only a title, so it won't make a difference in any other way. Let her decide or at least give some input as to what she wants it to be. Good luck!
2007-02-25 19:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by Grace1228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would still be a 'Matron of Honor' - unless you are going to give that Honor to your Mother.
Generally speaking 'a maid is a young, never married woman', whereas, 'a matron is a woman who has married' (even if she is divorced or divorcing, she has been married and is therefore 'more experienced at marriage' than an unmarried woman.
2007-02-25 17:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by sogerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A maid of honor is a single, never married woman. A matron of honor is or has been married -so women who have been widowed or divorced would be considered a matron of honor.
For titles: You would use Miss for a maid of honor. For a married woman, it would be Mrs. For a divorced or widowed woman, you could use either Mrs or Ms. Most divorced woman prefer Ms.
2007-02-25 18:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely dependent on whether the divorce is finalized at the time of your wedding. One other thing to consider is what is she doing with her surname after the divorce is finalized. Depending on when the divorce is done, and if she is going to take back her maiden name after this depends on how it appears in the order of service.
I have the same problem with my maid/matron of honour because although she can file for divorce at any point now, it's a money problem preventing her from doing so. Therefore, she may still be married when I get married. However, if your friend is not bound by a cash problem to finalize her divorce, she should have some idea (approximately) when it will be over for her. If it's coming close to when your wedding is and you still don't know what is happening, err on the side of caution and put her as a matron of honour with her married name in the order of service.
2007-02-25 17:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Matron of Honor as she has already been married. Maid is used for unwed never been married. Matron doesnt mean old in this case
2007-02-28 15:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that she would be matron of honor because she has been married. Even if she's divorced at the time of the wedding.
2007-02-25 17:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matron of honor. Just go with it. Maid of honor is when a woman has never married.
2007-02-25 17:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Matron, whether married or divorced. A maid has never been married.
2007-02-25 17:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is called a matron since she has been married. Maid is reserved for women who have never been married.
2007-02-25 17:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, divorced or not, she'd be called a matron of honor.
2007-02-25 18:22:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋