My bf and I had been dating for about 6 months. Last night, we both got drunk (he's 23 and I'm 22), and I got locked out of my apartment. I used his cell to call who I thought was my roommate, but I accidentally dialed his ex. Anyway, long story short, he broke up with me today, saying that I "crossed the line." I love this guy; I don't want to lose him. I'm so upset because this is all the result of a stupid, drunken night. What should I do? He told me that there are some things he can't handle, and this is one of them. It also sounds like his ex lied about what we talked about. I'm soooo upset and lost right now. Please, any advice or encouragement about what I should do would be really helpful. All I want to right now is cry...I just really need some kind words.
2007-02-25 08:57:36 · 18 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this feeling. I know it all too well. This is what is going on though. He is playing mind games with you to make u feel bad. Every guy does this to show the women that they are the ones that are in charge. I am not saying this is right by any cause cause I have to catch myself acting this way time to time. Just let him have his space and he will come back to you. Dont let it break you. If you have any other concerns feel free to write me on yahoo messanger. My name on the is "TheDarkRights"
2007-02-25 09:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it was a mistake or not is irrelevant. Everyone should be given a break when it comes to drunk dialing. You and your bf will understand this as you get older.
What came up for me however is the fact that he took HER side over YOUR side, when you are the current and she is the EX. Why does he care more about what his ex has to say than what you had to say. Why is he believing HER over YOU? This I would start to question because it sounds fishy to me.
Are you sure he is over her? Why does he even still have her phone number???
Its too bad that he didn't tell you earlier what he considered to be "crossing the line". Not really fair to have a secret thing that he will break up with you for and not even fill you in on.
He reminds me of a man I dated when I was your age - he ended up being an punishing abuser. You are probably better off without him.
2007-02-25 09:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under the circumstances, I think he jumped to a decision pretty quickly about breaking up. He should be understanding since he was drunk right along with you.
Sounds to me like he's siding with his ex, probably still in love with or attatched to her and was looking for an excuse to get out of the relationship with you.
I'm sorry, but if he broke up for that reason and his ex lied about what you said, they evidentally have some unfinished business together and neither one is ready to move on.
Call him later and see if he'll talk, if not....look for someone else that gives you the benefit of the doubt in those kinds of situations.
Not that it's a good excuse.....but when someone's drunk, they tend to talk alot and sometimes not realize what they said or to who and some things that they do.
Maybe if you get back together and lock yourself out again while you're drunk, you should let him dial the number and then give you the phone. (I'm guessing she's on speed dial and when you put those first 3 numbers in, it auto dialed)
2007-02-25 09:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by mizt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that really sucks I must say but here's some advice. Don't try talking to him about it in person or on the phone because chances are he won't let you tell your whole story. Write a message through the internet or in a letter telling him exactly what happened sparing no details and he may just understand. Then you can go talk to him for real and he'll be more forgiving and understanding if he has any feelings at all. It really doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-25 09:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Steven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this...but your guy is not willing to listen to a word you say...it would seem that he thinks you called his ex on purpose...i will not grill you about the effects of alcohol i'm sure you have beeen beating yourself up enough about that, but know this if your ex has broken up with you over this it was a diaster waiting to happen it almost seem that he was waiting for a reason to break up with you i'm sorry to say....i know you cannot see things clearly at the moment, but trust me it will all become clear in the end, you need to gather some strength within you to let this guy go, as hard as it seems right now, if he loved you he would listen to what you have to say, and let you explain your part, he is acting selfish....for your own sanity honey you need to tend to your wounds, and move on...i wish you well and be kind to yourself please your heart can only take so much, don't allow any more hurt to enter than what is already there.
2007-02-25 09:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO, First of all from what you wrote,It doesn't sound like you dialed the wrong number,next if he really broke off with this other girl why was her number still on his cellphone??? This is something that you should take to heart. You were pi---ed off for him locking you out of the apartment or what ever happened prior to you walking out of the apartment led you to this situation in the first place. To me I feel that your a young woman with a smart mind I suggest you use it! This person your dating is playing a mind game with you! Think about carefully!! "All the Best
2007-02-25 09:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello. First of all it was not your fault and never let him say that. Two if he brike up with you over a miss dialed phone call then you reall need to look at him very closely. There are some issues that need to be looked at. hun do not settle ok You can have any man you want. You have pride and self esteem . You are funny careing and witty. Just look and listen and you will know from there. Good Luck Ray
2007-02-25 09:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by ????????????????????? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really control what you do when you're drunk. I say to go see his ex and get her to tell the truth. Try to stay friends with this guy. It all sounds like one big mistake and maybe things will work out for you guys in the end. God is there for you.
2007-02-25 09:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by Shelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to talk to him, open communication is the best.Speak from the heart and apologize for possibly hurting him, I guess he thought the phone call was a childish prank???At the same time, oce you've doen all you can, he should be ready to trust youi and forgive, it was an accident. If he cannot trust you that your telling the truth and insists that your 'lying' to him, then I am sorry, he might not be worth your tears....YOU were the one stuck outside...
2007-02-25 09:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Miss Lost,
I just want to share with you some ideas about love and living.
Love is unconditional.
Being in a relationship I assume he loves you and with the pain you are expereincing right now I feel that you do love him.
The question is about love. So how do you know if your love is genuine? Let me share with you something...
What are the things you like about your boyfriend? imagine your boyfriend with all those qualities you like about him... maybe his smiles, his looks, his mind, the way he walks, the way he cares about you, the way he kisses you...
BUT what if 5 of those things you like about him changes or what about 10 of those things...would you still love him? does your love become less because of those things that has changed? if your feelings change and you doubt of your love for him inspite of the change of qualities you like about him maybe you havn't really loved him at all or the other way around.
LOve is undconditional like the Love of God. God loves you dearly. Love God and do what love requires and you will find what your heart really desires.
2007-02-25 09:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Saint777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋