A bit of history, first... I fold all my clothing (pants, shirts, etc) except work shirts, which I hang up. So... when I started doing my husband's laundry I did the same.
We visted her one day and she noticed the fold lines in a pair of jeans he was wearing.
Now, according to his mother, I do his laundry "wrong." Everything should be hung, nothing folded. He doesn't really care. Now she's demading that she do his laundry... we don't even live in the same house as her! I feel it's none of her business.
What would you say or do?
2007-02-25 08:57:01 · 24 answers · asked by telenanher420a 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
HA! LOL! It really is not funny, but I had to laugh because almost the same thing happened to me! Your husband needs to be the one to speak to her and tell her to 'mind her own business'. Really she has no rights here. My mother in law came over and started doing my husbands work shirts because she said they were looking dull. I watched her every move and asked her tons of questions about laundry, even though I already knew the answers. I thanked her as she was leaving and told her how oh so grateful I was and how I didn't know how I could have done it without her and now since she showed me how so thoroughly that now I thought I could do it by myself, but I would be sure and call her up if I had any questions. The next time she was over I made a point of showing her my husbands shirts and how clean and white they were (in front of hubby) and asked her (in front of everyone) "Don't you think these shirts look brand new?".
Now you would think that since I went overkill on that, that she would get the point, but she never did. That was not the only issue she bashed me on. My husband had to go to bat for me on several occaisions.
Your m-n-l may just want to know she is needed and valued. If that is the case, let her know you appreciate her by asking for her help now and again. BUT... if she is just doing this to be spiteful your husband needs to have a heart to heart talk with her.
2007-02-25 09:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mother-in-laws can be a pain in butt sometimes... and it's hard because you don't really want to tell your husband how you really feel about his mom or where you really want her go...
But in this case... you need to let her know that if your husband were to ask that you hang his pants so that there wasn't any fold lines in his pants, then you would do them for him without hesitation. But it is not an issue that he is concerned with and she should not be either. Thank her for the offer and walk away...
2007-02-25 17:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is your husband's responsibility to deal with his own mother but if that ship's already sailed, then you need to politely but firmly reject your mil's "kind" offer. Tell her that she can do laundry her way and you'll do laundry your way and you can agree to disagree. Of course, you could always take her up on her offer and get free laundry service. Hey, maybe you can get her to decide that you don't clean house properly either and she could come do that for free too. Play your cards right and you could become a lady of leisure. Just hang in there, smile politely, and keep her nose out of your business.
2007-02-25 17:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God!!! I know how you feel. She really needs to mind her own business. You are his wife and you do the laundry however you want. Mother in laws always got something to say, it's like they do not want to let go of they son.
I would tell her too her face that this is my husband and I am going to do his laundry my way.. I think that he needs to set her straight because in order for her to do his laundry he would have to bring it too her house. Tell him to talk too that ***** (excuse my french) I just get pissed off because I am experiencing the same type of drama.
I set her straight now she does not come around me because she feels like I have an attitude. Oh well!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-02-25 17:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell I'd let her do his laundry...that would be less work for me...beside I hang ALL of my slacks/jeans/pants...never have folded them because I don't want fold lines in clothes I wear to work. I'm not that fond of having to iron
2007-02-25 17:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It;s none of her business tell your husband to talk to his mom and set some limits with her you guys dont even live there she should be thanking you for doing his laundry.
2007-02-25 17:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say pick your battles - and this sounds like a good one to pick.
If she is allowed to cross this line, she will continue her march.
It would be much easier if your husband just put his hand up and said STOP the next time she said this.
Refer all of her requests to your husband. If she demands to do your laundry, just say "talk to him" and walk away because you are done talking.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 17:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Stan W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Husband needs to cut the cord!! When we marry we are to leave our parents for our spouse. Politely tell your mom in law, that thank you for the offer of doing his laundry, however, there is nothing wrong with how I do it and he has no complaints.
2007-02-25 17:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her to shut the hell up, this is MY house and I do things MY way. If other people's laundry bothers her that much then she needs to get a job working in a laundry mat.
2007-02-25 17:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not her business....why do you need to ask, have you no self-confidence? You husband is happy with the way you take care of the laundry. Ignore her...be an adult.
2007-02-25 17:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋